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I tell my husband because I find it funny and/or irritating when it does happen. It's not as frequent now that I'm above a certain age.
A few years ago I was at a gas station. Some toothless old guy walks past me and comments on my posterior. I'm sure he thought it was a compliment, but I was angry I couldn't buy gas without being cat-called. I was dressed for a business meeting at the time, if it matters. I called my husband because I was so mad.
Most of the time I don't notice it. Husband does sometimes and points it out to me later.
I don't tell my current partner.
Especially if I get hit on at places I regularly go to and continue to run into those people. Why make my partner feel weird every time he knows I am going there? And him wondering if I dress up for the guy(s) there? No.
I used to with an ex and it wasn't perceived well. I thought long and hard about it and agree. No point in telling him. Especially if there is an even then (gym/work) and I take him there and he wonders which of the guys hit on me before. No.
Only if there is a point in telling them.
Why would I tell my wife someone hit on me "just because"?
If someone hits on me it's usually forgotten about quickly enough that I would have to be pressed to remember it unless something odd, funny or interesting was associated to it.
It depends whether it's someone random or someone you both know.
I had this situation in a previous relationship by a friend we both knew which I didn't tell. The ex trusted this friend alot and I wasn't sure if I should ruin the friendship or seem like attention seeking, or even the friend could twist the story around etc.
Now I would if the same thing happens, but if just a random person there's little significance in telling.
I'm pretty sure my SO (past and present) wouldn't tell me.... However, they probably should also know that I wouldn't make a big deal of it. It only becomes a problem if it crosses the line to harassment which they would definitely tell me about.
In what sense do you use the word "should"? Are you asking whether you have some ethical obligation? I would think not, at least not by default. If a partner insisted that reporting this stuff was necessary, I might think I need to look for a new partner.
Do you mean that it would be wise? That could be if the person hitting on you was a close friend or a co-worker you'd see more of. If there was another effective way to handle it without telling my partner, I think I'd avoid concerning them. Key word being effective.
What would be the point? You want to make them jealous or something?
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