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I always message, talk, meet. The conversation does not have to be long. Conversation provides voice, tone, laughter, etc. Usually the meet time is scheduled during the initial conversation or at least by the third conversation. I find that some men aren't comfortable asking to meet for fear of rejection. I would not meet someone whom I have not talked to over the phone. It is neither right or wrong, only my preference.
If she suggested talking first, she probably won't meet you without a phone call.
I preferred a phone conversation prior to deciding to meet. It helped me decide if there was likely to be decent conversational flow, and get more of a grip on intellectual compatability.
But no real interest in a million phone chats prior to meeting. One is sufficient for me to decide whether or not to carry it further.
I think you just have to go with the flow OP. Personally, I'm one of those who can't feel chemistry with chat or a phone call and I always wanted to meet right away when doing online dating before wasting time. The only phone made was to arrange the date where we'd chit chat and see if it would work.
But reading this thread it's clear to me that others are very different. You might have to adjust the way you do things. Although I would also caution that while yours chit chatting and phone calling that you should keep looking as well. Don't rest all your hope in one person you've never even met.
Yep. You can spend weeks "chatting" with someone and think it's all good and then meet and there's no spark. Don't ask me how I know.Thought I would counter her request with just meeting. I have no desire to spend hours talking on the phone to someone I have never met if that's what she wants. A quick phone call to setup a date would be fine.
Honestly dude, I don't know how you don't see hearing the voice as key. What if its super squeaky, or just irritating in general, or her diction is terrible. Recently I met someone who although had great pics, speaks super fast, is heavily accented, and speaks with a lisp. Not deal breakers, but not someone I wanna hear speak forever. I just personally think its weird to not wanna hear a voice. A woman might find a hot. guy and he ends up sounding like Mike Tyson.
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Originally Posted by ellie
I would just as soon cut to the chase and meet for a cup of coffee. I wouldn't text because I'm not keen on giving out my phone number.
In this day and age of being able to block your number its not that big a deal for someone to have it like back in the days
I've been exchanging messages with a woman I met on the site for the last couple of weeks. We seemed to have hit it off.
She mentioned exchanging phone numbers and chatting on the phone. I'm not really a big fan of talking on the phone in general especially to someone I've never met.
I figured the next step would be to meet in a public place, determine if there's a spark, and if so, then we exchange numbers and the talk on the phone if there's mutual interest.
You can chat with someone online all you want and talk on the phone but you can't really determine if you're really compatible unless you meet. Even if we were to chat first, I would likely be giving her a Google voice # anyway because I don't really know her.
What do you all prefer?
I would never agree to meet without have a conversation on the phone.
Thanks for the replies. Although I'd prefer a quick meeting first, I'll go ahead and go through with the phone call.
What if she asks me for information that I prefer not to give out yet (i.e. where do you work)? Just say I'd rather not answer yet? Before anyone makes a snarky comment, I know a girl who broke up with a guy and he tried calling her at work and even sent flowers to her.
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