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Would bother me. My husband plays video games, but makes lots of time for me and our kids and pets etc. I totally think couples should have things they do separately without each other. But this sounds different, like it's all the time with nothing else going one except work.
He won't change. He knows it bugs you and continues. He won't change. And I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but he cares more about his games then you, and expects you will just put up with it indefinitely. Will you? It also appears he has always been like this, even before you got married. Did you really think you could change him?
Gaming and drinking beer as soon as he gets home from work until he goes to bed? Takes a break to eat dinner (unless beer is his dinner). Also anytime we are home on weekends he is on the computer. Hardly will walk our dog or enjoy the weather etc....he is 45 and has always been a gamer but I'm getting very tired of this. I can't even have a conversation with him because he can't listen since he is always in a "battle" on the game or something. He can't even watch a movie with me without playing. Would you tolerate it? I've tried to talk to him but he won't change. He knows it bothers me but doesn't want to change.
I was in the exact same situation, even with the dog . I did tolerate it too long. Wasted years. Got rid of him. He still "plays" but is very lonely. Not my problem.
Gaming and drinking beer as soon as he gets home from work until he goes to bed? Takes a break to eat dinner (unless beer is his dinner). Also anytime we are home on weekends he is on the computer. Hardly will walk our dog or enjoy the weather etc....he is 45 and has always been a gamer but I'm getting very tired of this. I can't even have a conversation with him because he can't listen since he is always in a "battle" on the game or something. He can't even watch a movie with me without playing. Would you tolerate it? I've tried to talk to him but he won't change. He knows it bothers me but doesn't want to change.
Your fault OP!
You chose an apple but wanted it to change into a pear.
Gaming and drinking beer as soon as he gets home from work until he goes to bed? Takes a break to eat dinner (unless beer is his dinner). Also anytime we are home on weekends he is on the computer. Hardly will walk our dog or enjoy the weather etc....he is 45 and has always been a gamer but I'm getting very tired of this. I can't even have a conversation with him because he can't listen since he is always in a "battle" on the game or something. He can't even watch a movie with me without playing. Would you tolerate it? I've tried to talk to him but he won't change. He knows it bothers me but doesn't want to change.
If he wasn't like this from the beginning, then yes, it would bother me. However, you said he's always been a gamer, so it sounds like you began this relationship knowing this and hoping he would change for you.
If you guys can't talk it out and come to a compromise, then it might be best to move on.
I don't want my husband (or SO) ALWAYS doing any ONE thing. Life is a balance...when life gets too unbalanced by an overemphasis on one or a couple things that will cause problems, simple as that. Whether it is "the computer"...video games...p0rn...work...golf...bars...church activities...or woodworking!
He's not into you, OP. The marriage is over. Just curious--does he expect you to provide sexual services for him at night, after ignoring you all day? If so, you don't have to comply, you know.
It sounds like you made a bad choice in partner. How long have you two been married? Has the time he spends gaming increased, since the engagement, and the wedding? Whatever the case may be, it sounds like your marriage is over, and he has no interest in improving it. The ball is in your court as to what to do about that.
He's not into you, OP. The marriage is over. Just curious--does he expect you to provide sexual services for him at night, after ignoring you all day? If so, you don't have to comply, you know.
It sounds like you made a bad choice in partner. How long have you two been married? Has the time he spends gaming increased, since the engagement, and the wedding? Whatever the case may be, it sounds like your marriage is over, and he has no interest in improving it. The ball is in your court as to what to do about that.
those guys usually don't care much about sex (with a person)
Gaming and drinking beer as soon as he gets home from work until he goes to bed? Takes a break to eat dinner (unless beer is his dinner). Also anytime we are home on weekends he is on the computer. Hardly will walk our dog or enjoy the weather etc....he is 45 and has always been a gamer but I'm getting very tired of this. I can't even have a conversation with him because he can't listen since he is always in a "battle" on the game or something. He can't even watch a movie with me without playing. Would you tolerate it? I've tried to talk to him but he won't change. He knows it bothers me but doesn't want to change.
Yes, I would be bothered if my husband was an alcoholic and addicted to gaming.
He has no interest in sex. Doesn't even want oral or even a massage. He was like this with ex wife also. He has always been the same with gaming (and drinking)....always some sort of gaming either on his phone
or on the computer.
I wonder how he even managed to get married twice with his very heavy gaming addiction? Boggles my mind.
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