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We used to train/workout together, etc in late 80s when dating then she married nother guy from gym soon after we broke up But I got up nerve to see how she's doin after months of thinking to do it, so called cross USA back east, from here in AZ, & took a chance. I knew she was pregnant back in 89 w/ a kid then, & she now has a 28YE son. But... she got divorced from that hubby guy -- over 20 yrs ago!
So, she spoke for a bit , asked re my mom (who since passed) & told me of her dad still working (& her mom in a nursing home now too) but had to go & just took my cell # & I told her call me or keep in touch. She thanked for calling. Now what I do? Wait or...
Send flowers to her work? Hmm, lotsa nutty ideas I got in me, but she was a special girl to me then -- & in our 20s it wasn't timing right.
Ok, just wondering from you all...
PS - I know many will bash me but anyone stick up for doing things that can judge if any chance at reunion??
We used to train/workout together, etc in late 80s when dating then she married nother guy from gym soon after we broke up But I got up nerve to see how she's doin after months of thinking to do it, so called cross USA back east, from here in AZ, & took a chance. I knew she was pregnant back in 89 w/ a kid then, & she now has a 28YE son. But... she got divorced from that hubby guy -- over 20 yrs ago!
So, she spoke for a bit , asked re my mom (who since passed) & told me of her dad still working (& her mom in a nursing home now too) but had to go & just took my cell # & I told her call me or keep in touch. She thanked for calling. Now what I do? Wait or...
Send flowers to her work? Hmm, lotsa nutty ideas I got in me, but she was a special girl to me then -- & in our 20s it wasn't timing right.
Ok, just wondering from you all...
PS - I know many will bash me but anyone stick up for doing things that can judge if any chance at reunion??
Well, I'm a fan of doing crazy things.
You have a lot of obstacles in your way, though. Are you ready to move back east eventually? Because if something does pick up between you, you still are in separate towns in separate states, and you'll mostly be dealing with frustration.
Only you can really judge what to do here, though. Don't go overboard with your "nutty ideas" and make any romantic gestures right now. You just contacted her out of the blue after decades. So ... give her time and space for now.
Do you know how she really felt about you way back when? You're the needy one. Don't count on her feeling the same way. I'd work into this slowly and delicately without any expectations on your end.
We used to train/workout together, etc in late 80s when dating then she married nother guy from gym soon after we broke up But I got up nerve to see how she's doin after months of thinking to do it, so called cross USA back east, from here in AZ, & took a chance. I knew she was pregnant back in 89 w/ a kid then, & she now has a 28YE son. But... she got divorced from that hubby guy -- over 20 yrs ago!
So, she spoke for a bit , asked re my mom (who since passed) & told me of her dad still working (& her mom in a nursing home now too) but had to go & just took my cell # & I told her call me or keep in touch. She thanked for calling. Now what I do? Wait or...
Send flowers to her work? Hmm, lotsa nutty ideas I got in me, but she was a special girl to me then -- & in our 20s it wasn't timing right.
Ok, just wondering from you all...
PS - I know many will bash me but anyone stick up for doing things that can judge if any chance at reunion??
Do not send flowers to her work. That's too showy and potentially embarrassing for her, and it's way too soon for such a display.
You called her at work (bold move! And apparently she didn't mind---good sign); do you have any other contact info? Cell phone or email? Facebook? You could message her that it was great talking with her, and you'd enjoy chatting with her again, or some such. Be careful not to bombard her with attention, until you know she's interested. It sounds like so far, she hasn't given you a clear indication.
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You have a lot of obstacles in your way, though. Are you ready to move back east eventually? Because if something does pick up between you, you still are in separate towns in separate states, and you'll mostly be dealing with frustration.
Only you can really judge what to do here, though. Don't go overboard with your "nutty ideas" and make any romantic gestures right now. You just contacted her out of the blue after decades. So ... give her time and space for now.
Then see what she does.
best advice yet! overboard's my middle name.
i take chances & if i lose, so what ain't no worse then backing down from even gutsy trying. most guys shy away from it. finding she's divorced helped my cause, no? cant hurt can it...
know her interests too, aka gym, booze, food, music, etc. but i'm in az & shes's back east so yes--not easy...but do-able -- if theres heart & where a will theres a way...
my phone was stolen sunday so deactivated # til replacement later in wk & will reactivate same #. she has that deactivated # now tho only--as borrowed friend's phone to call her work today.
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But I got up nerve to see how she's doin after months of thinking to do it, so called cross USA back east, from here in AZ, & took a chance. I knew she was pregnant back in 89 w/ a kid then, & she now has a 28YE son. But... she got divorced from that hubby guy -- over 20 yrs ago! 
