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Like I said, their appearance really doesn't matter. It's all subjective anyway.
What matters here is that SHE does appear to place enough value on looks that she felt the need to comment multiple times. It's tiresome and unflattering.
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I'd say most were average looking...
Yes. So, not really "ugly", which would be rude still if it were true, but it sheds light that she's doing this maybe because she thinks it indicates loyalty to you.
I think I'd tell her it doesn't make you feel great when she does that. My guess is, she'd like it very much if you pointed out average looking (or even pretty) women and called them ugly to her.
She seems really territorial. And I seem to remember that kind of behavior from females, when I was in my 20's.
As a matter-of-fact, my boyfriend (way back then) and I got in a huge argument one time, because he THOUGHT I was jealous of him talking to a friend of ours, who was also one of our co-workers. (We all worked together, and this was at a company bowling party.) I wasn't jealous at all...there was a guy trying to stir up trouble between us. Long story.
Sounds like your girl doesn't have a lot of self confidence, and it makes her feel better to tear other girls down. If you still like her at all, I think you ought to tell her you find this trait really un-attractive. Ugly even. lol
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Personally it would not bother me. Now going out of their way to call someone ugly is different than one comment or being asked your opinion about looks.
I have been dating a woman who has made some not so kind remarks about the men dating her sister and her best friend. Specifically she called them both ugly (to me personally, not to anyone else as far as I know).
We did a double date with her best friend and her friend's boyfriend. Before the date she told me the guy is ugly (physically speaking). So there we are on the date and we are walking behind her friend and she is whispering in my ear, "See how ugly he is, etc." Again, her comments could only be heard by me.
Finally, I showed her a photo of a good friend of mine as a potential set up for her friend. Her reaction, "He is ugly."
I might be old fashioned but I was raised to believe if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. Also, it is probably not a good idea to judge people purely by their appearance, etc.
For what it is worth the lady making these "ugly" remarks is 26 years old. In addition, although I am a straight guy, I know the guy friend of mine is very successful with women and I think most women would rate him as above average in looks.
So, what is it about this woman you are dating that makes her a prize? Why are you dating her?
I wouldn't date someone who behaves the way you have described. Such commentary is not only unnecessary it is offensive and actually makes her look shallow and foolish.
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