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I've said this before many times but I guess I'll say it again: everybody settles whether you're a 1 or a 10. To suggest you don't have to settle implies an inherent cognitive dissonance and a touch-and-go relationship with reality.
Of course everyone settles on something....because no person (and no situation) is absolutely perfect.
In my teens and 20's, men would literally line up to date me. My early 30's brought on a new challenge of me having to actually look for men. Now in my late 30's, I can look and look and not find anyone to date for a year.
Did you reject a lot of men when you were in your early 20s? Did you think some were too "homely" or "lame" and that there was someone "better"? Perhaps you are getting a taste of your own medicine years later in middle age.
Or perhaps not? I just have to ask. I know one woman who was a serial dater in the early 2000s. She was in her prime in the mid 20s and had many dating options. We hit it off but she quickly dumped me for another guy. She clearly thought that other guy was "better". Today, she is a divorced single mom in her 40s with two children. What goes around comes around.
In my teens and 20's, men would literally line up to date me. My early 30's brought on a new challenge of me having to actually look for men. Now in my late 30's, I can look and look and not find anyone to date for a year.
Fixed that for you. I'm a 30 year old man and I've never had more dating options than I do now.
I had a ton of success dating in college too, but I was looking for something different back then and I didn't really understand what was necessary to get the women that I wanted.
These days, I know exactly what I want and how to get it. From what I've seen, this is common for 30-something men that have their acts together.
Fixed that for you. I'm a 30 year old man and I've never had more dating options than I do now.
I had a ton of success dating in college too, but I was looking for something different back then and I didn't really understand what was necessary to get the women that I wanted.
These days, I know exactly what I want and how to get it. From what I've seen, this is common for 30-something men that have their acts together.
Meh. If that makes you feel better. I was widowed at 40 and started dating at 42. No shortage of men thought most were younger and older, with the least being my age. But certainly more than enough to date (I was only interested in dating a small percentage), and found my husband!
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Fixed that for you. I'm a 30 year old man and I've never had more dating options than I do now.
That's because you're only 30! lol You haven't lived long enough for the tide to turn. Same goes for women who enjoy popularity in their 20's; still going strong at 30. No surprise there.
Did you reject a lot of men when you were in your early 20s? Did you think some were too "homely" or "lame" and that there was someone "better"? Perhaps you are getting a taste of your own medicine years later in middle age.
Or perhaps not? I just have to ask. I know one woman who was a serial dater in the early 2000s. She was in her prime in the mid 20s and had many dating options. We hit it off but she quickly dumped me for another guy. She clearly thought that other guy was "better". Today, she is a divorced single mom in her 40s with two children. What goes around comes around.
Did you reject a lot of men when you were in your early 20s? Did you think some were too "homely" or "lame" and that there was someone "better"? Perhaps you are getting a taste of your own medicine years later in middle age.
Or perhaps not? I just have to ask. I know one woman who was a serial dater in the early 2000s. She was in her prime in the mid 20s and had many dating options. We hit it off but she quickly dumped me for another guy. She clearly thought that other guy was "better". Today, she is a divorced single mom in her 40s with two children. What goes around comes around.
This is a belief that comes from the habit of turning around and staring down after you flush instead of closing the lid, flushing and walking away.
Did you reject a lot of men when you were in your early 20s? Did you think some were too "homely" or "lame" and that there was someone "better"? Perhaps you are getting a taste of your own medicine years later in middle age.
Or perhaps not? I just have to ask. I know one woman who was a serial dater in the early 2000s. She was in her prime in the mid 20s and had many dating options. We hit it off but she quickly dumped me for another guy. She clearly thought that other guy was "better". Today, she is a divorced single mom in her 40s with two children. What goes around comes around.
That is very unfair. Of course if someone has a lot of options they're going to have to turn people down, male or female. You can't date everyone--you just need one and there are many factors that go into making a decision and then we don't always make the right one, but maybe it was the right one at the time.
Sorry you got your heart broken, but I'd guess that everyone on here has been thru that.
Did you reject a lot of men when you were in your early 20s? Did you think some were too "homely" or "lame" and that there was someone "better"? Perhaps you are getting a taste of your own medicine years later in middle age.
Or perhaps not? I just have to ask. I know one woman who was a serial dater in the early 2000s. She was in her prime in the mid 20s and had many dating options. We hit it off but she quickly dumped me for another guy. She clearly thought that other guy was "better". Today, she is a divorced single mom in her 40s with two children. What goes around comes around.
So I guess you dated EVERY woman who ever wanted you and lived happily ever after with all of them? You never dumped anyone, stopped calling anyone, ghosted anyone, or decided not to pursue someone because you liked another woman more?
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