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Old 05-12-2017, 12:13 PM
 
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It really depends on what "settling" means.

For men: settling typically means not being able to land the hot girl you've always wanted. You end up with an "average" looking/chubby etc. woman instead of the Instagram model.

For women: settling typically means a man with baggage (kids, ex-wife etc.) who is pretty good looking or a man with no baggage that you never would have given the time of day in your 20's. Women don't typically settle for the ugly guy with baggage...it's one or the other.
I disagree with this. Maybe not ugly with baggage, but I wouldn't say that most women end up with someone pretty good looking either.
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Old 05-12-2017, 12:27 PM
 
Location: In the bee-loud glade
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So I would think settling is a conscious surrender of sorts. Ignoring some important criteria so that you can be with "someone". Reassessing priorities is often a good idea. Abandoning an important need or deal breaker isn't, and would be more like settling.
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Old 05-12-2017, 02:00 PM
 
Location: Crook County, Hellinois
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For men: settling typically means not being able to land the hot girl you've always wanted. You end up with an "average" looking/chubby etc. woman instead of the Instagram model.

For women: settling typically means a man with baggage (kids, ex-wife etc.) who is pretty good looking or a man with no baggage that you never would have given the time of day in your 20's. Women don't typically settle for the ugly guy with baggage...it's one or the other.
For the first one (men), I would add "dating the first person who shows interest, just to have a date/partner". Other than that, this post is right on. A thousand times so if it's your first romantic experience.

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So I would think settling is a conscious surrender of sorts. Ignoring some important criteria so that you can be with "someone". Reassessing priorities is often a good idea. Abandoning an important need or deal breaker isn't, and would be more like settling.
Been there, done that, cheaped out on the T-shirt.
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Old 05-13-2017, 03:32 PM
 
Location: FAIRFAX, VA
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It's a proven fact options dry up as you get older. Today is my birthday, No date, less and less messages from.online, I need to dial back my age, since I look young
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Old 05-13-2017, 03:34 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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I disagree. There may be less single people out there in certain age groups, but there still are people to date. If I found out someone lied about their age I probably would stop seeing them.

If you look young, that shows in your pic. Guys I talk say they look at pics first, if they find them attractive the age doesn't matter.
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Old 06-01-2017, 08:41 AM
 
Location: IN>Germany>ND>OH>TX>CA>Currently NoVa and a Vacation Lake House in PA
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It's a proven fact options dry up as you get older. Today is my birthday, No date, less and less messages from.online, I need to dial back my age, since I look young
So you're going to lie on your online profile in hopes of finding a relationship? Bad move and would have been a deal breaker as soon as I found out. I don't put up with people that are dishonest or not who they say they are.
BTW, most people on online dating sites think they look younger than they are which is utterly hilarious.
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Old 06-01-2017, 04:32 PM
 
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If I went to a bbq and all the filet mignon was gone, and all that was left was hamburger and I was hungry I would eat the hamburger, you take what's available even if it's not your first choice.
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Old 06-01-2017, 11:48 PM
 
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If I went to a bbq and all the filet mignon was gone, and all that was left was hamburger and I was hungry I would eat the hamburger, you take what's available even if it's not your first choice.
Agreed. I'm in the process of doing this now. Hamburgers can taste good too.
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Old 06-02-2017, 01:17 AM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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If I went to a bbq and all the filet mignon was gone, and all that was left was hamburger and I was hungry I would eat the hamburger, you take what's available even if it's not your first choice.
Comparing food to a potential life partner, lol.
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Old 06-02-2017, 02:02 AM
 
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Comparing food to a potential life partner, lol.
Food is much more important. You can't live without food. Life partners are an option, not a necessity.
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