Would you settle if your options dried up (boyfriend, marriage, girl)
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The reason I'm going is because he's a friend and not really that much more excited than I am I don't think. I do believe he's hoping to get lucky, tho he won't, and Friday is my birthday and he said he wanted to take me out for that, despite me showing little interest. I do like him as a friend and my other Friday night plans fell thru. Also, I keep hoping this one will surprise me. He's handsome, wealthy, has a great personality, and has tiny grandchildren (I'm a sucker) and mentally stable. The problem is A. little chemistry and B. We've never had a truly meaningful conversation yet. Also, he's made a couple of racist comments. sigh. . . so, in other words, I'd be settling.
The racist comments would be enough for me to say thanks, but no thanks.
I can't imagine that situation occurring, but I would much rather be single than with the wrong person.
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Lookalike? Nah, it's not the same; I'd be "settling" for less Lol
I've found life isn't always as plan (so unpredictable) and nobody is perfect, especially when it comes to relationships. There's times when I would think I'm settling; which turned out to be the best relationships I've been in. There were women that I thought were near perfect (which ended up being terrible).
I try to make the best choice possible when dating. If I'm settling, so be it, nothing is set in stone. I can always leave at anytime if I'm not happy.
No, that would never be an option for me, much rather be single. Ever since OLD became available, this hasn't been a concern as it is much easier to find someone with specific things I am interested in. Similar to other posters here, I always did a lengthy profile which made things even easier.
No, that would never be an option for me, much rather be single. Ever since OLD became available, this hasn't been a concern as it is much easier to find someone with specific things I am interested in. Similar to other posters here, I always did a lengthy profile which made things even easier.
So are you with someone now? I got lots of dates OL but few relationships and none that lasted over a year. I'm just sick of dating.
The racist comments would be enough for me to say thanks, but no thanks.
Yes I agree and that's a big reason I decided not to date him, but sadly I live in a pretty racist area (temporarily I hope) and it's in the air and getting worse--seemingly so, since I know now it was there all the time. I do talk back though--if someone says something inappropriate, I call them on it.
With that said, since I cant get with Jessica Alba, I would be settling my entire life
That's not settling. That's being realistic.
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I couldn't imagine settling for someone I had no desire to be with at all.
I can't, either. Well, now. But tell that to my 18-year-old self.
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Originally Posted by weezerfan84
I'm curious. Why go on the date on Friday night if you're not even that excited about it? I ask, because I've done the same thing, and more times than not, the date was doomed from the beginning. If I wasn't at least a little excited to meet them, I probably shouldn't had of gone on the date. However, my selfish @ss decided to go on the date anyways. It just wasn't worth it and I felt the same way when I could sense the woman wasn't as excited to be out on a date with me.
i kind of felt the same way about my first girlfriend, at least after the first date. I was thrilled to finally start seeing someone (or "going out", as people still said back then in 2001), but I was disappointed in every other way. Namely, her looks not being what I'm attracted to, and her being far less interested in exploring the city than I was. Why did I keep seeing her? I didn't feel like I had any other choices. Why did she keep seeing me for as long as she did? Hard to say; I had virtually no insight into how women think.
I got lots of dates OL but few relationships and none that lasted over a year.
I'm just sick of dating.
Rampant unrealistic expectations aside...
it seems that few active OLD users are looking for more than dating.
Serial dating? You betcha.
Some maybe rising to serial shallow monogamy? Sure; a fair bit.
Really looking to settle in with a singular someone for the duration? Not so much.
The more that anyone has going on in their lives otherwise...
the less inclined they seem to be to look for or to expect more than some sort of seasonal arrangement.
eg: Summers coming up! Time to find someone good for beach weekends and road trips.
eg: Falls coming up! Time to find someone good for the parties and TG dinner at Mom's.
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The more that anyone has going on in their lives otherwise...
the less inclined they seem to be to look for expect more than some sort of seasonal arrangement.
eg: Summers coming up! Time to find someone good for beach weekends and road trips.
eg: Falls coming up! Time to find someone good for the parties and TG dinner at Mom's.
Haha! So true.
It's why the breakup season generally falls between New Year and Valentine's Day. People want someone to kiss at midnight, but don't want to invest into a pricey Hallmark holiday. That goes for both men and women.
I, too, have a lot going on in my life hobby-wise. So a "seasonal arrangement" is looking pretty good. But most women my age are looking for a serious long-term relationship, so the least I can do is be honest and hope for the best. Otherwise it's just bad juju. Perhaps I'll have better luck finding "seasonal arrangements" without selling out morally once I pass the big four-zero.
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