Lonely in high school (dating, boyfriend, girlfriend, married)

[Dizzy69]

I'm about to enter my 3rd year of high school and just can't take the single life anymore...

I'm the only one of my friends that is single and I just hate seeing all the stupid couples being all lovey dovey while I have to sit alone and watch

I know it sounds really stupid... But it's been a year and a half since I've been able to be really happy in a relationship...

I don't expect to be together forever and I don't expect a serous relationship right off the bat but it would be nice to just have somebody who just liked me for me....

[cjtex23]

Relax! I'm 37 and I'm alone. Sometimes it's hard, but most of the time it's ok. When it's the right time, someone will appear in your life. Be patient.

[moonsavvy]

Yes I can relate. I too wanted a relationship in high school that was "meaningful". My suggestion to you is to start to love yourself first. Once you love yourself your need to be in a relationship where someone else will love you will start to become less important.

Remember high school only comes around once. The time spent with friends will be more valuable to you than the time spent with "the one"

With love and blessings...

[miu]

Ummm... do you have plans for college? Looking back at my youth, I never had a boyfriend in high school. Yes, there was a couple guys that I liked, and I went out on one movie date. I wasn't ready for love back then, let alone all that lovey dovey groping and possibly sex. Anyway, my advice to you is to just focus on your schoolwork and join some after school activities like a sport, the school musical or play, or debate team. I really feel strongly that high school years are for learning and personal growth, not romance. I'm really glad that I avoided dating until I was out of college. I think that young people have sex too soon these days. My boyfriend lost his virginity at 15, but he agrees with me that trying to date in high school is not worth it. Don't be an adult too soon.

Otherwise, the opposite sex is attracted to those with confidence and strong self esteem. Make yourself think that a girl would be lucky to be dating you. And it's true that the harder you try to get one, the less likely you will be successful in getting a girlfriend. Stop trying and instead work on being happy and independent. Appearing needy is a turnoff. Be less serious. Being too serious and desperate in your approach may come across as creepy. Girls like a guy that makes them laugh and feel comfortable. Also, don't forget to make friends with girls just for the sake of friendship. If girls see that you are kind and nice to all girls, they will like your company. And don't pressure any female friend right away for a date. Give her a chance to like you more. Asking a girl out too soon will mess a budding friendship up. Having patience is important. In the meantime, make your schedule to busy to have a girlfriend. Get a part time job, or volunteer at an animal shelter. When the right girl comes along, then free up your schedule.

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[SandyCo]

I never dated in high school. In fact, I was the one who everyone else made fun of mercilessly. I didn't date at all until I got to college - and then I was so desperate for love that I ended up married at 20 years old, and divorced at 26.

Please try to focus on your education now, even though it's difficult. The rewards will be so much greater later on in your life. Very few of your peers who are in relationships now will be with the same person in five years.

Besides, if you get used to being alone, then you won't be so easily swayed by anyone who pays you some attention, and you can pick and choose who shares your life. This is very important for your lasting happiness later!

[miu]

My reasons for not dating in high school... my parents were strict and wanted me to study hard and get into a good college. There was no privacy since I lived at home. I had no real money of my own to spend on going out. None of us had cars, so it was a pain to get rides to places. Also, I just wasn't interested in having sex that young. Being groped by a boy (even if I had a crush on him) just didn't seem all that appealing to me. Plus I didn't want to get attached to a guy and then the two of us going off to different colleges.

In college, I was too busy trying to get good grades to focus on having a boyfriend. I lived in the dorms and always had a roommate in the the room, so again privacy was a problem. I had a lot of good male platonic friends that were like brothers to me. I kept myself occupied with studying and doing group activities. Looking back, I didn't miss not having a boyfriend in college.

Once I had my own apartment and a fulltime job, I finally started to develop an adult social life. Finally I started dating. I never tried to find a boyfriend at a bar or a club. They were always guys that I shared the same hobby or work with. So in case you are nervous about talking to girls, try approaching them only as a friend. Make sure that you have some common interests or classes so that you have regular stuff to talk about. Try to excel in something. Either in class, a sport or perhaps learn a musical instrument. If you are good in your schoolwork, one way to get to meet new friends is to be known as a good student and help others with their homework. Study groups are a great way to become friends. Don't worry about having the coolest jacket or best haircut. That doesn't matter. Also, carry breath mints on you. That always helps boost ones self confidence with the opposite sex. lol

And SandyCo is right. Learn to be more comfortable with your alone time. I usually stay single for several years between relationship breakups. I love my own company and there is nothing wrong with being single. But what is wrong is to be with the wrong person just for the sake of being in a relationship. Never compromise on the company you keep. Always surround yourself with quality people. Quality is always greater than quantity.

[woxyroxme]

At your age you have more years ahead of you to find someone than you realize.

I spent my entire senior year dating the same person only to be dumped right before the prom because she wanted to go with someone else, so the grass may not be as greener than you think.

[elfyum]

Weird - I didn't WANT a bf in HS!
(I ended up with one anyway... He was my bud & we shoulda stayed that way but hey - I was open to trying the bf thang...
No regrets...)
I just wanted to PARTAAAAY!!!!
Hormones don't kick in til around 30 - and after 40 -
LOOK OUT!!!

[ScranBarre]

Dizzy, I was single for three years from my senior year of high school into college, and I kept on having such severe bouts of depression for being the "third wheel" all the time that I was downright miserable. Just when I thought all hope was lost a guy sent me a message on MySpace out of the blue. I checked out his profile and immediately was drawn to his gorgeous blue eyes. I responded. We arranged our first date, which ended with a half-hour long passionate make-out session that fogged up the windows in my car! Needless to say I went from being lonely to being deeply in love seemingly overnight.

You'll find someone one way or another. It might be next week, next year, or even when you get to college. Sometimes it's worth waiting for quality. Take it from someone who filled his three year void with random hook-ups; it's not worth it.

[bigjd]

I like being single! no worries, no nothing!
the longest relationship i had was hmm 2 months, and i only had 1 gf.
Now my thing is to get done with college, then when the time comes marry some one.