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op: may I inquire as to what does qualify as valid reasons for a mate to be allowed to cheat? I read where you stated, you didn't give her a reason.
I'm 100% certain she had her reason. And none of it pertained to love or respect.
I released the hurt of betrayal when I forgave. I also released myself from dedicating any further time (devotion) to the decaying relationship. Stay and you are in essence consenting to this habit. The choice is yours.
No contact for 3 - 4 months while engaged? Sounds to me like you were "on a break" at that time. She was within her rights to be with someone else then. That's not cheating.
No contact for 3 - 4 months while engaged? Sounds to me like you were "on a break" at that time. She was within her rights to be with someone else then. That's not cheating.
No contact for 3 - 4 months while engaged? Sounds to me like you were "on a break" at that time. She was within her rights to be with someone else then. That's not cheating.
You still need to break things off and move on.
Exactly what I was thinking--two years into your four year engagement she broke of contact for months and slept with someone else. This is not a functional relationship.
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I agree with those who are wondering about the 3-4 months. During that time, you weren't in a relationship, IMHO. I don't know what a "love engagement" means - does that mean it's kind of an understanding but you don't have any real plans to marry, ever? I'm just guessing.
She didn't "cheat" during that time, IMHO, you weren't in a relationship with her. She had sex with someone else during a time when you had broken up, even if it wasn't stated that way. It's a little odd to me that she felt compelled to give you details of what exactly happened. It's kind of none of your business, IMHO, and weird to tell you.
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