Husband Obsessed with Young Coworker (abusive, free, like, emotional)
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I think the OP stated that she's waiting to finish her course in school, is waiting until she finds another job and wants all her ducks lined up in a row before she leaves her selfish, disrespectful, cheating and pervy STBX-husband.
That sounds smart on her part. Look out for yourself is a good idea. Make sure you are living a good life and make sure that is documented. That is what the courts look at according to a person who knows about these things. The courts will try their best to make sure the damaged party maintains her before divorce lifestyle. Sounds like you have the ball in your court.
I dont know why you're waiting for? but if you have the strength to watch your husband slowly and painfully fall out of love with you, you go right ahead.
I can't afford to leave. I know some of you have trouble believing that but it is my circumstance. I
got laid off and had to retrain to go into an entirely different field of work. I don't have a job, we are in debt so there is no savings I can tap into and I live in one of the most expensive cities in Canada. I can't afford rent, even just a room in someone's basement is $1000+.
There is no sense in me wishing any different, this is my reality. My family lives on the other side of the country. I have no choice but to be strong until I CAN leave. Which I figure is mid August.
I think the OP stated that she's waiting to finish her course in school, is waiting until she finds another job and wants all her ducks lined up in a row before she leaves her selfish, disrespectful, cheating and pervy STBX-husband.
That's fine. She should stop complaining about the sexting, and let the hubby do his thing with miss young-tail, while she makes plans for divorce.
I can't afford to leave. I know some of you have trouble believing that but it is my circumstance. I
got laid off and had to retrain to go into an entirely different field of work. I don't have a job, we are in debt so there is no savings I can tap into and I live in one of the most expensive cities in Canada. I can't afford rent, even just a room in someone's basement is $1000+.
There is no sense in me wishing any different, this is my reality. My family lives on the other side of the country. I have no choice but to be strong until I CAN leave. Which I figure is mid August.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?
I guess so, Ma'am. You're in for a miserable summer. Im so sorry
I can't afford to leave. I know some of you have trouble believing that but it is my circumstance. I
got laid off and had to retrain to go into an entirely different field of work. I don't have a job, we are in debt so there is no savings I can tap into and I live in one of the most expensive cities in Canada. I can't afford rent, even just a room in someone's basement is $1000+.
There is no sense in me wishing any different, this is my reality. My family lives on the other side of the country. I have no choice but to be strong until I CAN leave. Which I figure is mid August.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?
Completely understand OP.
Will you be able to stash even just a couple of bucks here and there until you leave?
I wish there was something I could do to help you.
You'll come out the other side of this mess so much happier.
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Originally Posted by ZeroPatience
I can't afford to leave. I know some of you have trouble believing that but it is my circumstance. I
got laid off and had to retrain to go into an entirely different field of work. I don't have a job, we are in debt so there is no savings I can tap into and I live in one of the most expensive cities in Canada. I can't afford rent, even just a room in someone's basement is $1000+.
There is no sense in me wishing any different, this is my reality. My family lives on the other side of the country. I have no choice but to be strong until I CAN leave. Which I figure is mid August.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?
I feel for you, OP! I'm in this same circumstance. I would've left my STBX a few months ago if I was able to afford it, but I couldn't and still can't. But, the money that I've been saving from my job (in addition to the $ that was in my bank account before any of this happened) is edging me closer and closer to the day that I can move out into my own place and break up with him. I envision this happening sometime next month (hopefully before that).
As another poster has stated and what I happen to agree with, you're smart for lining things up for your departure *before* you actually move out and divorce.
Stay strong OP...and keep on keepin' on. August isn't that far off - and when that wonderful day comes, you'll be glad you did it this way because it'll be a smoother transition for you and you won't find yourself broke or struggling.
I can't afford to leave. I know some of you have trouble believing that but it is my circumstance. I
got laid off and had to retrain to go into an entirely different field of work. I don't have a job, we are in debt so there is no savings I can tap into and I live in one of the most expensive cities in Canada. I can't afford rent, even just a room in someone's basement is $1000+.
There is no sense in me wishing any different, this is my reality. My family lives on the other side of the country. I have no choice but to be strong until I CAN leave. Which I figure is mid August.
My husband sexted her again last night. June 5th I told him not to cross anymore lines or our marriage would be over. He knew the risks but chose to go ahead. Obviously our marriage and me mean nothing to him. I'm done.
I have the strength to stay until I finish my course, then I will leave. I deserve a better life than this.
Just yell at him and make a big scene. Trust me, this is easily resolved. You weren't hard enough on him the first time. You really have to go at him to get him the message.
Do you think the grass is greener on the other side? Try to work this out. Don't go straight to divorce.
You didn't even tell him about the texts. We're guys. We make mistakes. You can still rectify this. Maybe nothing physical has happened. Just tell him everything. Stop hiding things. That makes things worse.
People on this site are too quick to tell people to split up.
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