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SO and I have been living and dating for 2.5 years now. In general we have a good relationship. He is kind, considerate, shows me affection and that he loves me on a daily basis. However, recently I came across some things that are giving me doubts. I snooped (yes I know it's not right) and found porn on his computer. Not a lot, but enough where he is watching it 2-3 times a week. He is also googling a lot of women (models he likes etc). Our intimate life is great and I don't consider myself Adriana Lima but I do keep myself in shape and he does still seem attracted to me. Therefore, if he is still attracted to me and we have sex almost every day I don't understand why he needs to watch porn. Rarely do I turn him down...
I tried to ignore this and not let it get them to me.
However today I just found a conservation between him and a friend. He had sent him 2 pictures of girls and said that the older he gets the more aroused he gets (he actually tells ME the opposite). He then also said "I need to get invited to celebrity parties to meet girls like this". He made specific comments about those girls that made me really insecure.
I do have insecurities I need to work on, however I just want to know, is this just normal guy talk? I take my body and looking good and in shape very seriously because I want my SO to be crazy about me and desire me. However it seems like he wants other girls more than me. Should I be concerned?
SO and I have been living and dating for 2.5 years now. In general we have a good relationship. He is kind, considerate, shows me affection and that he loves me on a daily basis. However, recently I came across some things that are giving me doubts. I snooped (yes I know it's not right) and found porn on his computer. Not a lot, but enough where he is watching it 2-3 times a week. He is also googling a lot of women (models he likes etc). Our intimate life is great and I don't consider myself Adriana Lima but I do keep myself in shape and he does still seem attracted to me. Therefore, if he is still attracted to me and we have sex almost every day I don't understand why he needs to watch porn. Rarely do I turn him down...
I tried to ignore this and not let it get them to me.
However today I just found a conservation between him and a friend. He had sent him 2 pictures of girls and said that the older he gets the more aroused he gets (he actually tells ME the opposite). He then also said "I need to get invited to celebrity parties to meet girls like this". He made specific comments about those girls that made me really insecure.
I do have insecurities I need to work on, however I just want to know, is this just normal guy talk? I take my body and looking good and in shape very seriously because I want my SO to be crazy about me and desire me. However it seems like he wants other girls more than me. Should I be concerned?
guys view porn like car enthusiasts view cars.....you could finally have your dream car and ride it everyday but still look at other beautiful cars...
however, does this mean he is getting bored riding the same car??
guys aren't too bright.....when young.. sometimes they compromise the best thing they ever had over something dumb..
if this really bothers you tell him,,,and if dismisses it,,,,ask him how he would feel if you were sending images of yourself to old boyfriends
normally id say a little porn is nothing....but it sounds like he is digging himself a hole....
as one girl told me years ago ,,,,feelings are neither right or wrong,,,they just are..... so as a guy I can feel I'm right....but if it is putting distance between me and her.....im the idiot..
I worked with a guy that would have to get aroused by looking at porn,,,then he'd have sex with his wife..
and she knew this ..
Well, to me personally I do still think other guys are attractive. But when I am excited I think of me, not of Christian Grey or something. I like to fantasize about him, not other men. Because he has been looking at so many models and all kinds of girls online I just don't feel he desires me.
You're right. It's just that it is difficult to approach this because I found out by shopping :/
SO and I have been living and dating for 2.5 years now. In general we have a good relationship. He is kind, considerate, shows me affection and that he loves me on a daily basis. However, recently I came across some things that are giving me doubts. I snooped (yes I know it's not right) and found porn on his computer. Not a lot, but enough where he is watching it 2-3 times a week. He is also googling a lot of women (models he likes etc). Our intimate life is great and I don't consider myself Adriana Lima but I do keep myself in shape and he does still seem attracted to me. Therefore, if he is still attracted to me and we have sex almost every day I don't understand why he needs to watch porn. Rarely do I turn him down...
I tried to ignore this and not let it get them to me.
However today I just found a conservation between him and a friend. He had sent him 2 pictures of girls and said that the older he gets the more aroused he gets (he actually tells ME the opposite). He then also said "I need to get invited to celebrity parties to meet girls like this". He made specific comments about those girls that made me really insecure.
I do have insecurities I need to work on, however I just want to know, is this just normal guy talk? I take my body and looking good and in shape very seriously because I want my SO to be crazy about me and desire me. However it seems like he wants other girls more than me. Should I be concerned?
The conversation was JUST " guy talk " in my opinion and sort of talking big like " yeah I get more and more aroused as I get older ( instead of the stereotypical opposite ) " and " I need to get invited to celebrity parties to meet girls like this ( whats the chance of that happening? ) " .... Etc.
Even the porn thing might not be his thing entirely and just something that they as mates share together ( not physically but for humour/interests lol ) or he's just looking for ways to spice up your love life more perhaps? ( hope you like getting whipped or dress up on the off chance? )
If think you're fine love as you do seem to have a VERY healthy sex life as it stands.
Porn leads to cheating, fantasies can and do overpower men.
What's your evidence of this? Nearly all men look at some porn...yet not all cheat.
The more common issue is that men become entirely passive and only get off by watching porn - and are lazy with their wives and girlfriends. That's a problem, but it's not the same as cheating and it doesn't happen to all men either.
That doesn't seem to be at all what's happening with you OP. It think it's kind of a guy thing "sharing" - and talking big. Unless it takes up too much of his time I'd just be sure he knows you have a great time with him and show him that!
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