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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Different strokes for different folks. DH and I had amazing chemistry in the first 2 minutes. 23 years later, we still have amazing chemistry!
This. All weddings I've attended started with people that had instant chemistry.
All my healthy long term relationships with, and the ones that resulted in good friendships did as well.
The lack of instant chemistry sometimes resulted in tepid relationships anyway, due to the "they looked good on paper" notion and me liking them as people (their heads, hearts, values, shared interests, etc) and because they were cute/good looking, so I convinced myself the chemistry might develop. Never has.
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Yes, you are correct here. Chemistry is what makes me want to know the person and grow. But I'm like just it takes one date to sum up chemistry? A year ago, a woman told me the same thing. She said I was great guy and funny, but no chemistry. 14 months later, she wants to go on a date with me again, I declined her offer because she should have intiated a 2nd date a year ago. Chemistry is something that has to be built. Most folks I know who have chemistry on the first date ended up in failure or even worse.
It takes me very little time to "sum up chemistry".
I know, within a very short time of meeting someone, whether I feel that I want to pursue something with them.
Is it a guarantee of "happily ever after"? Not at all. But, in my experience, trying to force something that is not there, usually with the mindset of "giving the guy a chance", just never works.
Though, as stepka pointed out in the other thread, this really is not a "right vs. wrong" thing. It's simply people approaching relationships in different ways.
I hope you guys know what chemistry truly and really means. Liking someone from the start is not chemistry, it's called physical attraction. Are folks on here dumb with thier vocabulary?
I hope you guys know what chemistry truly and really means. Liking someone from the start is not chemistry, it's called physical attraction. Are folks on here dumb with thier vocabulary?
My interpretation of it is yes the physical attraction naturally but also the other traits that people find desirable whether that's physical or mentality, personality etc
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I hope you guys know what chemistry truly and really means. Liking someone from the start is not chemistry, it's called physical attraction. Are folks on here dumb with thier vocabulary?
Not at all. These are two different things. Often they go hand in hand, but they can also occur separately.
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