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Old 05-24-2017, 10:00 PM
 
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Ok, not exactly. But why do people date someone, then not really take it seriously or treat them well, then years later they want to be a part of their lives? What changed?
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:08 PM
 
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Ok, not exactly. But why do people date someone, then not really take it seriously or treat them well, then years later they want to be a part of their lives? What changed?
"Part of their lives" in what way?
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:09 PM
 
Location: 🇬🇧 In jolly old London! 🇬🇧
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Ok, not exactly. But why do people date someone, then not really take it seriously or treat them well, then years later they want to be a part of their lives? What changed?

If they got away with treating the person like crap then they will feel they have every chance to get away with it again and usually comeback with a " I didn't realise what I had back then but I'm changed now " which is all bollox

However there are some decent people we meet and get on great but for whatever reason you can't be with them at that time but later on you find one another again and can be which is rather lovely I think
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:13 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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However there are some decent people we meet and get on great but for whatever reason you can't be with them at that time but later on you find one another again and can be which is rather lovely I think
i.e. "best case scenario"
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:32 PM
 
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i.e. "best case scenario"
It's a very best case scenario I'm sure you agree!
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Old 05-24-2017, 10:35 PM
 
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If they got away with treating the person like crap then they will feel they have every chance to get away with it again and usually comeback with a " I didn't realise what I had back then but I'm changed now " which is all bollox

However there are some decent people we meet and get on great but for whatever reason you can't be with them at that time but later on you find one another again and can be which is rather lovely I think
I suppose so. What is your example? It is hard to date someone and take off without it being at least kind of personal.
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Old 05-24-2017, 11:10 PM
 
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It could mean any number of things. Life took one or both in different directions (job, school, family), or wanting different things, but otherwise happy together in a loving relationship (e.g., one party wants kids or marriage, but the other didn't at the time, or doesn't want either), or other situations that ultimately lead to ending a relationship that was wanted/good in many respects.

Or, either party not realizing how good they had it until later on.
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Old 05-24-2017, 11:30 PM
 
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It could mean any number of things. Life took one or both in different directions (job, school, family), or wanting different things, but otherwise happy together in a loving relationship (e.g., one party wants kids or marriage, but the other didn't at the time, or doesn't want either), or other situations that ultimately lead to ending a relationship that was wanted/good in many respects.

Or, either party not realizing how good they had it until later on.
I had a girl that was really into me and she looked almost exactly like Neve Campbll. Dark hair, blue eyes and nice face.
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Old 05-24-2017, 11:33 PM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Ok, not exactly. But why do people date someone, then not really take it seriously or treat them well, then years later they want to be a part of their lives? What changed?
Loneliness, desperation, selective memory + failure to learn from the consequences of their bad behavior in a series of failed relationships.
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Old 05-25-2017, 05:05 PM
 
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Maturity and regret

They realize what actually matters to them in life.
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