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03-09-2008, 07:12 PM
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No, I'm not sorry
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Very Personal, but no friends around tonight and have to vent
So, a few weeks ago I found myself head over heels in love with my friend and neighbor. He's so sweet to me and treats me like gold. However, he's straight (I'm a gay man).
We spend so much time together and my feelings for him are stronger than any I've felt in quite some time. It hurts, but I'm handling it and enjoying that I get to have any type of relationship with him at all.
However, tonight I'm going crazy. I know it's stupid, I know I can't have him and I'm working on resolving those feelings. He's out tonight; on a second date with a girl he met. I'm not so much jealous as HURTING. I find myself wondering what he's saying to her. Is he putting his arm around her? Is he kissing her? On and on it goes.
I've always put up walls with straight guys because I've seen the hurt it can cause, but somehow he flew in under my radar. Now I'm in misery and his face; his eyes are haunting me tonight. Words can't truly describe the confusion and anguish I'm feeling tonight 
I'm not looking for advice, I'm smart enough to know the score. I just needed to get it off my chest and proclaim my love somehow, somewhere.
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03-09-2008, 07:17 PM
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The Red Queen of Wales
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That's so sad. I sort of feel the same about someone sometimes, and I know it can be painful.
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03-09-2008, 07:20 PM
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No, I'm not sorry
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Originally Posted by Metlakatla
That's so sad. I sort of feel the same about someone sometimes, and I know it can be painful.
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Thanks Metlakatla. |
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03-09-2008, 07:21 PM
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My wish for you is that you can find someone else soon who shares your lifestyle and who will affect you the same way as your neighbor does.
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03-09-2008, 07:24 PM
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No, I'm not sorry
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Quote:
Originally Posted by flindras
My wish for you is that you can find someone else soon who shares your lifestyle and who will affect you the same way as your neighbor does.
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Thanks, my wish is the same. My neighbor and I do share the same lifestyle, but he's not gay 
*forgive me, I appreciate your post, but calling being gay a lifestyle is a pet peeve of mine. I do truly appreciate your words and the obvious thought behind them  |
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03-09-2008, 07:25 PM
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Teach me: What is the correct verbiage?
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03-09-2008, 07:26 PM
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OMG- That is strange. I've never had a crush on a straight guy. It makes no sense at all. He is trying to make you envious or jealous? Because straight guys usually don't spend a lot of time with other straight guys let alone homosexual ones.
-Liberal straight guys are cool to chill with or sometimes even to flirt with in a joking way...but never serious flirting.
-As soon as I know that a guy is straight I really have no feelings for him what so ever. If it is a gay guy, I don't have feelings for him until he shows that he is a kind and committed person.
-I'm sorry but you've developed an attachment. It is time for you to go to some gay dance clubs and just try to pick out a few nice guys to talk with and flirt with. You'll feel better if you try.
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Originally Posted by Lior Arel
So, a few weeks ago I found myself head over heels in love with my friend and neighbor. He's so sweet to me and treats me like gold. However, he's straight (I'm a gay man).
We spend so much time together and my feelings for him are stronger than any I've felt in quite some time. It hurts, but I'm handling it and enjoying that I get to have any type of relationship with him at all.
However, tonight I'm going crazy. I know it's stupid, I know I can't have him and I'm working on resolving those feelings. He's out tonight; on a second date with a girl he met. I'm not so much jealous as HURTING. I find myself wondering what he's saying to her. Is he putting his arm around her? Is he kissing her? On and on it goes.
I've always put up walls with straight guys because I've seen the hurt it can cause, but somehow he flew in under my radar. Now I'm in misery and his face; his eyes are haunting me tonight. Words can't truly describe the confusion and anguish I'm feeling tonight
I'm not looking for advice, I'm smart enough to know the score. I just needed to get it off my chest and proclaim my love somehow, somewhere. |
Last edited by artsyguy; 03-09-2008 at 07:41 PM..
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03-09-2008, 07:29 PM
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The stereotypical gay lifestyle is fashion, dance clubs, and promiscious sex.
Quote:
Originally Posted by flindras
Teach me: What is the correct verbiage?
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03-09-2008, 07:32 PM
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OK I'll change it to shares your feelings. Sorry.
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03-09-2008, 07:37 PM
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O-Topics,CChat,Games,Music, FL,PhotoContest,Blog
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"Golden Rule: Do Unto Others As U Would Have Them Do Unto U."
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I have to agree with ArtsyGuy on this one.
-I'm sorry but you've developed an attachment. It is time for you to go to some gay dance clubs and just try to pick out a few nice guys to talk with and flirt with. You'll feel better if you try.
Going out to socialize, flirting with others and receiving will surely make you feel better.
May even make you blush! :-)
I wish you the very best.
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