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There're threads made by posters such as saying they're no longer physically attracted to their partners etc. So it happens, but I'd say more commonly so in men as they're mostly visual, not to say women can't be but emotional needs are higher.
If the partner cannot be aroused anymore, most likely other issue already exists before the visual turn off becomes a problem.
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Is this thread about new relationships? If that's the case, no, you shouldn't bother getting in a relationship with someone who is physically unattractive to you.
If this is about long term (as in lifelong) relationships, that's going to happen. Few people look as good at 60 as they did at 22. If you are in a long term relationship and you expect your partner to not go through the typical aging process, you're in for disappointment.
And that goes both ways. If you think you can make your partner suck in air just by catching a glimpse of you stepping out of the shower 40 years after you married, you're in for disappointment. Livin' in the real world.
As far as seeing my lover in the nude, it doesn't arouse me that much.
Because he/she's too fat, wrinkly, etc.
Is this necessarily wrong to think this way about your SO?
I just wanted to get some opinions, seems to me that this is probably more common in the older population than one would think since most would never admit it. I don't think that both a visual and emotional turn on is needed, especially for men, but maybe I'm wrong?
Again, arouse that much or just like "that's cool" instead of a "really hot hottie/hunk" way.
Personally, I don't think you should "always" do anything when it comes to sex. I mean, the dark can be fun, sure, but not EVERY time. Variety is the best part. Sometimes you don't even know where you'll end up LOL.
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That's so sad. If someone is that repulsed by someone's body why even bother having sex?
I don't like having sex in the dark. I prefer, to have all the lights on so i can get the full experience. I want to see all her body flaws, her facial expression, body language, smell her scent, etc.
Tough to do in the dark with bags over our heads, LOl
I agree, HC. Well, maybe not ALL the lights But the visual is a big part of the experience. Besides, how am I gonna see his O face in the dark??
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Is this thread about new relationships? If that's the case, no, you shouldn't bother getting in a relationship with someone who is physically unattractive to you.
Yep.
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If this is about long term (as in lifelong) relationships, that's going to happen. Few people look as good at 60 as they did at 22. If you are in a long term relationship and you expect your partner to not go through the typical aging process, you're in for disappointment.
And that goes both ways. If you think you can make your partner suck in air just by catching a glimpse of you stepping out of the shower 40 years after you married, you're in for disappointment. Livin' in the real world.
Very true For most long-term couples, just because your partner doesn't look like an Adonis after decades together doesn't mean he doesn't have ANY appeal. I know that's a really weird concept for the very young, but that's the beauty of being human.
Oh nay, nay! I love seeing my guy's expressions, his smile, the lusty look on his face and he loves seeing mine!
Op, we're all getting older. Not everyone ages gracefully but when it's your spouse/partner, whatever, and you love them for THEM, then the few extra pounds or wrinkles shouldn't matter.
If you can find that miracle potion that keeps us all youthful and beautiful, let me know
As far as seeing my lover in the nude, it doesn't arouse me that much.
Because he/she's too fat, wrinkly, etc.
Is this necessarily wrong to think this way about your SO?
I just wanted to get some opinions, seems to me that this is probably more common in the older population than one would think since most would never admit it. I don't think that both a visual and emotional turn on is needed, especially for men, but maybe I'm wrong?
Again, arouse that much or just like "that's cool" instead of a "really hot hottie/hunk" way.
Is this the case with every person or just with one? If just one, I would say, you don't love him/her (enough).
I am aroused by the specific male part, so if the rest of the body isn't that great, I concentrate on the schlong only.
I am attracted to ripped guys but half of my exes were chubbies and I guess not so great looking. I am still getting aroused by their body though.
If he is super hot, it is rather a disadvantage because then I can hardly concentrate and think straight, even if he is dressed. I almost prefer to date not so hot guys or we won't ever leave the bedroom, I get distracted if they have nice arms/chest.
Is this thread about new relationships? If that's the case, no, you shouldn't bother getting in a relationship with someone who is physically unattractive to you.
If this is about long term (as in lifelong) relationships, that's going to happen. Few people look as good at 60 as they did at 22. If you are in a long term relationship and you expect your partner to not go through the typical aging process, you're in for disappointment.
And that goes both ways. If you think you can make your partner suck in air just by catching a glimpse of you stepping out of the shower 40 years after you married, you're in for disappointment. Livin' in the real world.
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WHy wouldn't I admit it? He's 50 pounds overweight with a big belly and scrawny legs! So right...visually not a turn on...but he does know how to do a few things I like!
As someone who is about to turn 60 (my daughter will not let me forget this) Something I've noticed as I've aged is a softening of my eyesight and touch. Not literally perhaps, but a softening. The eyes and touch, not other stuff.
reneeh63 took my next point to another level , but I'll make it anyway. Those of us who are reasonably well adjusted make some kind of peace with reality. To quote to mid 20th century philosophers, Jagger and Richards, "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you might just find, you get what you need".
I have a friend who used to be known for dating women that were, to put it nicely, not attractive in the classical way. When another friend asked him why he did it his reply was "everyone looks good from a certain angle". Although I've seen a few women who would seem to disprove that rule, generally speaking he's correct.
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Well, maybe not ALL the lights 
But the visual is a big part of the experience. Besides, how am I gonna see his O face in the dark?? 
) Something I've noticed as I've aged is a softening of my eyesight and touch. Not literally perhaps, but a softening. The eyes and touch, not other stuff. 
, but I'll make it anyway. Those of us who are reasonably well adjusted make some kind of peace with reality. To quote to mid 20th century philosophers, Jagger and Richards, "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you might just find, you get what you need".
