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Old 06-10-2017, 07:21 AM
 
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How is it a red flag if someone is obsessively clean?
I grew up in squalor. Filth. Drugs and booze all around.
I am obsessed with cleanliness. I will NOT live the way i grew up. Red flag me
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Old 06-10-2017, 07:47 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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How is it a red flag if someone is obsessively clean?
I grew up in squalor. Filth. Drugs and booze all around.
I am obsessed with cleanliness. I will NOT live the way i grew up. Red flag me
I think it's the "obsessive" that would be a red flag, not the "clean."

Good for you for overcoming your past. That's hard to do.
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Old 06-10-2017, 08:12 AM
 
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Also important to note is that one person's "very messy" is another person's "pretty tidy."

"Slob" is a subjective term...my mom would say that leaving out any clutter whatsoever is being a slob.
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Old 06-10-2017, 09:58 AM
 
Location: NNJ
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I think it's the "obsessive" that would be a red flag, not the "clean."
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Yes. That is the red flag for me. Clean is great but it is the obsessive part that I can deal with. Realistic and practical...
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Old 06-10-2017, 10:41 AM
 
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Messiness can also mean the person is lazy, unorganized, poor hygiene, in many cases
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Old 06-10-2017, 10:53 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I'm the untidy one, so in relationships I've always appreciated when the guy is a cleaner. I live alone, and if someone just showed up at my door right now I would not let them in--there are stacks of magazines and amazon boxes and shoes sitting around. People always say how much easier it is when you clean on the go rather than in a binge on the weekend, but I've never been able to make that habit stick.
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Old 06-10-2017, 11:21 AM
 
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I admit I'm a neat freak and like for things to be clean and tidy overall. I'm not extreme about it, so a random dish in the sink or a towel or socks that never made it in the laundry hamper, wouldn't send me over the edge.

However, if a person is content to live in utter filth and mess, because they can't be bothered to do even the basics of house chores, that *would* be a deal breaker for me.
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Old 06-10-2017, 05:18 PM
 
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How is it a red flag if someone is obsessively clean?
I grew up in squalor. Filth. Drugs and booze all around.
I am obsessed with cleanliness. I will NOT live the way i grew up. Red flag me
I can understand why you'd say that, because to me, a person being very clean and tidy wouldn't be something that I'd consider to be a red flag, even if they appeared to be "obsessed" about it. Honestly, I'd rather be with a person like that than being with someone who was dirty and messy; although there are other people who wouldn't want to deal with someone who's very neat and clean because maybe they're not neat and clean themselves.
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Old 06-10-2017, 05:24 PM
 
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When I say obsessive, I'm thinking along the lines of ...

Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD)

No thanks.
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Old 06-10-2017, 06:43 PM
 
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There could be a point at which the messiness would overcome any positive qualities that she had, yes.


ETA:
After reading through the thread a bit, there could also be a point at which the cleanliness of a person would overcome the positive qualities that they had as well.
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