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OP, why do you even care what it means? The patronizing head-patting would be such a put-off to me, that I'd ignore the person. And how on earth does she pat your head in class? She'd have to reach across the aisle, unless you sit right in front of her. That would be weird. I'd avoid her, if I were you. You shouldn't be so needy of female attention that you'd put up with this.
Right! People do that to kids. I would see it in a negative light...
OP, why do you even care what it means? The patronizing head-patting would be such a put-off to me, that I'd ignore the person. And how on earth does she pat your head in class? She'd have to reach across the aisle, unless you sit right in front of her. That would be weird. I'd avoid her, if I were you. You shouldn't be so needy of female attention that you'd put up with this.
First of all, I'm not in need of female attention she's a good friend to me, helped me a bunch of times. What I've found interesting is that a lot of people in forums seems to be put off by the head patting. I don't know if it's cultural difference or what but at least to me it seems fine. You'd think that me, who has an eastern culture background would be turned off as well. I've done this to my ex and some juniors before, so I don't see it as disrespectful. Where do you guys come from if you don't mind me asking? And btw we sit next to each other.
First of all, I'm not in need of female attention she's a good friend to me, helped me a bunch of times. What I've found interesting is that a lot of people in forums seems to be put off by the head patting. I don't know if it's cultural difference or what but at least to me it seems fine. You'd think that me, who has an eastern culture background would be turned off as well. I've done this to my ex and some juniors before, so I don't see it as disrespectful. Where do you guys come from if you don't mind me asking? And btw we sit next to each other.
Are you saying she pats it once or twice and then stops or consistently pats your head, multiple times in a row for the duration, like one would a baby they're holding?
I'm in the US, and I think it's weird. REALLY weird. If I had students in a class I was teaching and one was patting the others' head a majority of the time, I would call them up after class and tell them to knock it off.
I don't really think she likes you romantically, if that's what you're asking.
Are you saying she pats it once or twice and then stops or consistently pats your head, multiple times in a row for the duration, like one would a baby they're holding?
I'm in the US, and I think it's weird. REALLY weird. If I had students in a class I was teaching and one was patting the others' head a majority of the time, I would call them up after class and tell them to knock it off.
I don't really think she likes you romantically, if that's what you're asking.
It varies, sometimes she just pat once or twice, and sometimes her hand would remain on my head (not patting) for a while, and sometimes she'll put her elbow on my shoulder and rest her head on her hand(like what you do when you are bored). I took all of those as friendly gestures, I've just have doubts and curiosity recently after the incident in the car.
In Western culture, head-patting is something only done to children, or to people one views as children. It's inappropriate to do to an adult.
I agree. The OP said they started college 2 years early. Could this be why? She considered you a child? Either way, I see it as inappropriate and not something you'd do to even someone you considered a friend. It'd be kind of demoralizing if it happened to me in college.
In Western culture, head-patting is something only done to children, or to people one views as children. It's inappropriate to do to an adult.
I usually see it as saying "you are adorable" to which in which way 'adorable' I refer to is up to the context, situation, and interpretation. But it's interesting and good to know the differences in culture.
I agree. The OP said they started college 2 years early. Could this be why? She considered you a child? Either way, I see it as inappropriate and not something you'd do to even someone you considered a friend. It'd be kind of demoralizing if it happened to me in college.
The early college entry is what I thought at first. But it's not THAT unusual for people to enter college at 16 or 17. Unless the OP has a baby face or is of short stature, I'm at a loss to explain it. Especially since he says she's a good friend, not just a classmate. Maybe it's her way of expressing affection. Who knows? It's still a bit weird.
The early college entry is what I thought at first. But it's not THAT unusual for people to enter college at 16 or 17. Unless the OP has a baby face or is of short stature, I'm at a loss to explain it. Especially since he says she's a good friend, not just a classmate. Maybe it's her way of expressing affection. Who knows? It's still a bit weird.
Many people have pointed out that I look young even for my age, so I guess that's why. Or I guess maybe she's just weird.
The early college entry is what I thought at first. But it's not THAT unusual for people to enter college at 16 or 17. Unless the OP has a baby face or is of short stature, I'm at a loss to explain it. Especially since he says she's a good friend, not just a classmate. Maybe it's her way of expressing affection. Who knows? It's still a bit weird.
I guess as someone who's always been mistaken as being much younger (late teens, early 20s) than I am (28), the early college entry is the first thing I could think of to possibly explain it.
Maybe just ask her? If she's a good friend, it shouldn't be too hard to bring it up. It's most likely meant with good intentions and it doesn't seem like it bothers you too much.
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