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Old 06-24-2017, 01:14 PM
 
Location: NM
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We have been married 28 years. One day I was having problems with my computer and I looked at my husband's to see if he was having Wifi problems. I looked and there were no Wifi problems but I did see on the screen that this young woman had written him a valentine saying stuff like "I'd like to wake up with you and fix you breakfast in bed". I was devastated. I read more. He had written her that if I knew about this that I would be asking him to sleep on the livingroom couch. He had been having this thing going on since before October of last year. This woman lives over 2000 miles away from us. We had been happy for a long time and now this. He keeps his computer locked up and when he's finished with his use of it, he turns it off. I had not looked at his computer for well over a year as I trusted him entirely. I am so hurt over this. He has never apologized. I'm beginning to think he isn't the husband I thought he was. I've been going through alot of pain. He and I both are in our late 60s.
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Old 06-24-2017, 01:16 PM
 
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Why haven't you brought it up with him?
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Old 06-24-2017, 01:22 PM
 
Location: Sector 001
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Another dishonest person that puts their own desires first. Perverted old coot. . I wouldn't worry about it that much at this point. He might love you but just be horny. Men can be attracted to women for only their bodies as most people know.
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Old 06-24-2017, 01:29 PM
 
Location: Florida
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I'm curious. How do you read messages on someone's computer if they keep it "locked up"?
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Old 06-24-2017, 01:30 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I'm curious. How do you read messages on someone's computer if they keep it "locked up"?
I don't know if this is what happened with the op, but sometimes message still appear on your lock screen.
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Old 06-24-2017, 01:45 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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She lives over 2000 mi. away, and the two of you had been happy together for awhile? From what little you've told us, it sounds like it might be an internet flirtation. Has he been going out of town at all, during this "happy" period? It might be a fantasy affair on his part. (Notice he didn't say you'd divorce him if you knew. You'd only exile him to the couch.) Without evidence that he's been actually seeing this woman, I wouldn't hit the alarm bells yet.

Marriage counseling, OP?
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Old 06-24-2017, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Good grief, I'd wager that this happens in so many what were believed to be solid...relationships.

Glad I'm single for a LONG TIME...one marriage and divorce before this technology explosion was ENUF for me.

Wishing you OP the best outcome. I can't imagine.
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Old 06-24-2017, 02:32 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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She lives over 2000 mi. away, and the two of you had been happy together for awhile? From what little you've told us, it sounds like it might be an internet flirtation. Has he been going out of town at all, during this "happy" period? It might be a fantasy affair on his part. (Notice he didn't say you'd divorce him if you knew. You'd only exile him to the couch.) Without evidence that he's been actually seeing this woman, I wouldn't hit the alarm bells yet.

Marriage counseling, OP?
Definitely counseling. How was your relationship prior to this, OP? Were you affectionate with each other? Satisfying sex life? Not that it excuses anything, but it sounds like he's looking outside the marriage for validation and excitement rather than working on that with you.
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Old 06-24-2017, 02:51 PM
 
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My Facebook and iPad are locked from my wife... I have nothing to hide but she messes with my profile and posts comments. I don't need my profile updated with cutesy pics.
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Old 06-24-2017, 06:30 PM
 
Location: Pa
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My Facebook and iPad are locked from my wife... I have nothing to hide but she messes with my profile and posts comments. I don't need my profile updated with cutesy pics.
Why not? Lol
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