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No.
I don't have any thoughts that I'd want to block.
It hasn't all been roses, of course. There are certainly things I don't particularly want to think about. And, occasionally, something, this thread for example, does cause them to cross my mind. But, there's no reason to block them.
I just made myself remember the worst romantically-connected memory that I have. It sucked, but...so what? It's over. I can look at my part in it and remind myself to not make those same mistakes. If I blocked it, I'd probably be more likely to repeat it.
I find you cant block painful thoughts no matter what you do (unless, you have a Dr put you into an induced coma) but you can do things to help you manage and get through it.
I go for really long runs/ lift weights whenever things get painful in my life.
No, the more I tell myself not to think of them, the more they will come up.
I will echo that working out helps. It keeps you busy, challenges you, sets a goal, and you'll look better, which will boost your feelings about yourself.
I did used to really enjoy exercise, and it helped me get in better shape. Unquestionably physical exercise is an incredible stress reliever.
Now, though, I'm physically limited in what I can do. I can lift weights with each arm, that's about it. I can't even swim at the moment because I have a wound on the bottom of my foot that I can't get wet.
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Sex. Fear: scary movie, ride on the back of a motorcycle, rollercoaster. Intense book, concentrate very hard on the words and visualize. Zone out on Forensic Files.
I don't need to think about it again, I lived through it already.
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You can block painful thoughts by planning ahead what to think of. For example, you can plan to think about planning an upcoming vacation when the painful thought enters your head. Or you can plan to sing a favorite song in your head. When I think of _______, I will immediately switch my thoughts to _______. This only doesn't work if you want to wallow in the pain, and I don't think you do.
Also, you can use the Scarlett O'Hara plan. I can't think about that today, I'll think about that tomorrow. Literally, plan to be sad tomorrow from 2 to 2:15 p.m. And then, STOP BEING SAD NOW.
Honestly, this works. Whenever the painful thought enters your head, IMMEDIATELY switch your thought pattern. Been there, done that.
And yes, vigorous exercise and other activities will help a lot. Keep busy.
Best wishes. We've all been there with you.
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