Do you think its disrespectful? (guys, cheats, dance, sex)

[Elmonellie]

You picked this guy. I imagine you've known this is the kind of guy he is for about as long as you've been dating. He is the kind of guy that does this stuff, probably likes to go to strip clubs and look at naked women in magazines, too. This is the kind of man he is. He is not going to change.

Either accept him for what he is and do not nag, tell him that this behavior hurts your feelings (which is nagging, by the way), tell him he is disrespecting you (whatever that means and that is also nagging, by the way), etc. People don't change their basic personalities because someone else wants them to.

If you want a guy who is not much into this stuff, go find one. There are PLENTY of guys who really like women and like to look at pretty women and wouldn't be offended by seeing the occasional naked picture, but that does not go to strip clubs and get lots of these kind of mags and spend lots of time on these kind of web sites.

Your choice.

[Roselvr]

Originally Posted by beergoddess

E.xcuses, excuses, excuses. Shes apparently told you she doesnt like you looking and commenting on half naked pics of chicks. Bottom line is you need to stop. Its DISRESPECTFUL. I feel sorry for her. Why cause I,m married to someone like you and have been for almost 14 years. I,ve made my bed and I,m laying in it. However I hope she reads this and realizes that she doesnt have to. She deserves better. I hope she gets it.

I know someone married to a guy like this, it's been hard for her to say the least. The hardest times for her have been when she's been pregnant and feeling really fat & unattractive, after giving birth until she loses the weight unless they've had another kid, so now you've got a woman that hasn't seen her prepregnancy weight in years and is getting pretty down / depressed. Going out and hearing him say how hot other women are in front of her or hearing how great looking he is, yet he doesn't compliment her much and she's a beautiful woman that could get a man better looking then him.

Even pregnant or after having the kids she was a beautiful woman, he should have been happy to be with her.

Originally Posted by Elmonellie

Either accept him for what he is and do not nag, tell him that this behavior hurts your feelings (which is nagging, by the way), tell him he is disrespecting you (whatever that means and that is also nagging, by the way), etc. People don't change their basic personalities because someone else wants them to.

Yes, sometimes people do change but it might take a life or death situation for them to realize just how crappy they treat their mate, but I'm sure it is rare.

[Elmonellie]

Originally Posted by leslie_downs

yes i definitey thinks that's disrespectful, expecially if you told him how it makes you feel. he's completely disregarding your feelings for his own selfish reasons. i've explained to my bf how i dont like him looking at porn and when he finally got to see how upset it made me he stopped looking at it. but if your man keeps looking at, not caring how you feel that's definitely not respecting you. do you want to be with a man that doesnt respect you and isnt willing to give up something that really hurts you because he enjoys it or for whatever reasoning he has? expecially the comments he makes to other women, i dont care if he doesnt know them, if you're in a serious relationship you should not be saying things like that. or even be looking at other girl in a sexually desirable way.

If I had 1 billion $$$ I would bet your bf still buys, views and enjoys porn as much or more than he did before you nagged him into saying he "gave it up". He is just hiding it now...and probably resenting you for making him feel like a little boy that has to hide dirty things from his mommy. Ask any man if I am wrong in my guess.

[The Man in SATX]

I would venture out and ask.. if you knew your SO was doing these kinds of things before you married him/her, why would you try to change someone? If you knew what they did back then.. when you said "I DO" you accepted him/her with all of his/her faults and what ever baggage they came with. Now if you didnt know what they were doing that in itself is a completely different story!

[riverboat]

Yes, it's very disrespectful!
My husband has been in a forum for a long period.
He always posts a half naked chicks and puts some stuuuupid comments like a teen ager at his 40's! He even posts very nasty web sites too.
We argued about it several times and even went to a marriage counseling. He apologized and promised me not to cross a line though he did not give up the forum insisting the forum is important for his life!
He spends more time on the forum than being with me and our kid. OK, we are sexless!
I am tired of seeing my husband behave like a 18 year old boy!

I tell you! Don't ever get married with a "forever teen ager"...period!

[beowulf7]

I don't really see a problem w/ him checking out forums of naked chicks. The part that bothers me is that you specifically told him you don't want him doing that, yet he's still doing it. You basically laid down the law: "choose me or those nude Internet pics". He made his vote w/ his mouse and keyboard. End the relationship and move on.

[orangie]

I don't believe there's any such thing as "being overly sensitive." If it bothers you, it bothers you and no one should be able to tell you differently.

[Zelichan]

Originally Posted by riverboat

Yes, it's very disrespectful!
My husband has been in a forum for a long period.
He always posts a half naked chicks and puts some stuuuupid comments like a teen ager at his 40's! He even posts very nasty web sites too.
We argued about it several times and even went to a marriage counseling. He apologized and promised me not to cross a line though he did not give up the forum insisting the forum is important for his life!
He spends more time on the forum than being with me and our kid. OK, we are sexless!
I am tired of seeing my husband behave like a 18 year old boy!

I tell you! Don't ever get married with a "forever teen ager"...period!

That guy sounds like an idiot. I bet he is the type that never works! I'm sure that chump wont cook or do any yard work. I'm sure he's the type of old milkshake that his own kids hate him, AMIRITE?!?!?! I bet no one in the world likes that guy! Why did you marry such a pathetic looser in the first place?


You should just whip that chump into shape! IMO you should just keep harrasing him to the point that he just hates life. Make his life a living hell. That would be fun! If you're lucky he'll die an early death and you can reap the benefits! He should act like a 40 y/o man! He should go sit in a recliner and wait to die like all the old milkshakes are suppose to do! All the oldtimers should just work and bring home a check. They better not have any fun in life! 40 year old are not allowed to have fun.


I'm still wondering what's the harm? Does he abuse you? Does he ever treat you or your friends with disrespect? I mean he could just be out cheating on you with other women instead of post stupid stuff on a forum like most men his age. That whole mid life crisis thing, ya know. Seems like a petty little thing to me, pals.


Are you really pissT at him or something else and taking it out on him?


Just saying.

[Linkin2100]

He's a LOSER ! Get rid of him and get a guy that really cares ! Tell him he needs to come to my school and learn how to really treat a young lady ! Theres lots of good guys out there ! Go fishing !!!!

[leslie_downs]

Originally Posted by Elmonellie

If I had 1 billion $$$ I would bet your bf still buys, views and enjoys porn as much or more than he did before you nagged him into saying he "gave it up". He is just hiding it now...and probably resenting you for making him feel like a little boy that has to hide dirty things from his mommy. Ask any man if I am wrong in my guess.

HA no! i totally trust my boyfriend. and i know he respects me enough to not do something he sees upsets me so much. some people get addicted to porn and have to keep watching it, but not my man!