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Met a woman at a bar about one week ago. We chatted a few times. We had a date set up for this evening. I confirmed time and place with her last night (the night before the date).
So a few hours before our date I texted her the address which she already could have gotten on her own with that thing called Google.
After a series of back and forth texts she pulls out of the date saying, "The thing is I'm tired and don't want to drive to be quite honest with you."
So I reply with, "No worries, I can pick you up." [Note: we both live very close by to each other]
She replies: "Ok what time should I be ready?"
Me: "I can be there by 9:30pm or so?"
She does not reply for about 20 or 30 minutes so I say:
Me: "Hello?"
She replies: "Can I reschedule you sorry."
So I replied: "No thank you. Take care and try to be more respectful of other people's time in the future. It is very inconsiderate and rude."
hehe, same thing happened to me a few days ago.. see my other thread. What is wrong with online dating these days? People have lost all sense of etiquette and are more self-absorbed it seems. Good call for not tolerating this stuff, I myself have implemented a zero-tolerance policy for this nonsense.
hehe, same thing happened to me a few days ago.. see my other thread. What is wrong with online dating these days? People have lost all sense of etiquette and are more self-absorbed it seems. Good call for not tolerating this stuff, I myself have implemented a zero-tolerance policy for this nonsense.
Well, we met the "old fashioned" way as in at a bar/club.
That said, I agree with you about the zero tolerance policy. Life is too damn short to put up with that kind of behavior.
Yep, I replied to your thread a few days ago: See post No. 14.
Agree. Seems like very few people have manners any more. She would have been a waste of your time anyway, so be glad that you found out as soon as you did. Still, I'm sorry that happened.
I think she was ambivalent about getting together with you. At first, she thought she would meet-up with you, but then she wavered, and decided no. It is very easy for this to happen.
For one thing, a woman should usually not get into a car with a man she does not know or has just met in a bar. All rules of dating suggest this can be quite unsafe.
For a first date, women should always meet the man at a public place and provide her own transportation.
Does she work and need to be at work tomorrow? Meeting at 9:30pm on a work night is pretty late.
I would have given her your phone number and told her to call if she decided she would like to meet in the future. (rather than giving her a lecture on rudeness and lack of consideration) You took it as a rejection rather than she being tired or ambivalent. If she has any interest in you, with your phone number, she might have called you in the future - that is if she has any interest.
I think she was ambivalent about getting together with you. At first, she thought she would meet-up with you, but then she wavered, and decided no. It is very easy for this to happen.
For one thing, a woman should usually not get into a car with a man she does not know or has just met in a bar. All rules of dating suggest this can be quite unsafe.
For a first date, women should always meet the man at a public place and provide her own transportation.
Does she work and need to be at work tomorrow? Meeting at 9:30pm on a work night is pretty late.
I would have given her your phone number and told her to call if she decided she would like to meet in the future. (rather than giving her a lecture on rudeness and lack of consideration) You took it as a rejection rather than she being tired or ambivalent. If she has any interest in you, with your phone number, she might have called you in the future - that is if she has any interest.
LOL. I did NOT take it as rejection. I took it for what it was on face value: a very rude way to treat a person!
Please note: the original 9pm meeting time was based on her schedule and preferences, not mine. The only reason I suggested pushing it to 9:30pm was she indicated she was running late and might not be able to make it on time.
Finally, I am tired too!!! I traveled for work this week and had a 16 hour day the day preceding our date. Heck I am tired every day. But IF I make plans with someone I stick to it. Common decency would be a minimum 24 hour cancelation notice.
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Met a woman at a bar about one week ago. We chatted a few times. We had a date set up for this evening. I confirmed time and place with her last night (the night before the date).
So a few hours before our date I texted her the address which she already could have gotten on her own with that thing called Google.
After a series of back and forth texts she pulls out of the date saying, "The thing is I'm tired and don't want to drive to be quite honest with you."
So I reply with, "No worries, I can pick you up." [Note: we both live very close by to each other]
She replies: "Ok what time should I be ready?"
Me: "I can be there by 9:30pm or so?"
She does not reply for about 20 or 30 minutes so I say:
Me: "Hello?"
She replies: "Can I reschedule you sorry."
So I replied: "No thank you. Take care and try to be more respectful of other people's time in the future. It is very inconsiderate and rude."
Negan voice, "look at that, handled it lie a champ!"
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People with zero tolerance aren't people I want in my life.
I also don't understand the need to share crud like this, is this bragging? Oh great, you're hard. Good for you.
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