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I fell for a guy 12 years old than me who was at my hiking group. Over the years we have had a rocky relationship where he would show me interest but would serial date other people. As a result I would ignore him as I was hurt and then he would get annoyed I ignored him but he didn't know why.
We made amends recently but he went back to blowing hot and cold. His brother once told me that he has had a very bad time with relationships and has bad anxiety, I do believe this as he stutters and gets nervous around me. If he is socially awkward how can he ask the majority of the women out of the hiking group? The women get annoyed with his strategy so now he is a member of over 100 hiking groups - something not right there.
I fell hard for this guy even though he let me down many times. He is very impatient and moans a lot, I cannot stand those traits. He will be on a hike soon and I have not seen him in 6 weeks. I am fed up of him leading me on and I hate having feelings for him when I know I deserve better.
I don't want any animosity and don't see why I should avoid the group. Should I go to the walk or completely cut him out of my life? I am having sleepless nights and anxiety attacks over this.
I fell for a guy 12 years old than me who was at my hiking group. Over the years we have had a rocky relationship where he would show me interest but would serial date other people. As a result I would ignore him as I was hurt and then he would get annoyed I ignored him but he didn't know why.
We made amends recently but he went back to blowing hot and cold. His brother once told me that he has had a very bad time with relationships and has bad anxiety, I do believe this as he stutters and gets nervous around me. If he is socially awkward how can he ask the majority of the women out of the hiking group? The women get annoyed with his strategy so now he is a member of over 100 hiking groups - something not right there.
I fell hard for this guy even though he let me down many times. He is very impatient and moans a lot, I cannot stand those traits. He will be on a hike soon and I have not seen him in 6 weeks. I am fed up of him leading me on and I hate having feelings for him when I know I deserve better.
I don't want any animosity and don't see why I should avoid the group. Should I go to the walk or completely cut him out of my life? I am having sleepless nights and anxiety attacks over this.
I'm seriously trying to understand why you liked him at all. He sounds like a total weirdo.
I would say that if you are unable to stop contributing to the drama by allowing on again, off again games, don't go.
BUT, perhaps some therapy to find out how you get hung up on guys with traits you don't like and treat you like a door mat?
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I'm seriously trying to understand why you liked him at all. He sounds like a total weirdo.
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Originally Posted by Mikala43
I would say that if you are unable to stop contributing to the drama by allowing on again, off again games, don't go.
BUT, perhaps some therapy to find out how you get hung up on guys with traits you don't like and treat you like a door mat?
i agree, OP you need to move on. some guys are not into serious relationships for a variety of reasons, and nothing you do will change that. when a guy is ready for a relationship, we generally dive right in with both feet. in fact many times we fall harder for the woman than she does with us.
if you want to continue dating him, then do so with the realization that he is not going to be exclusive to you, and deal with it accordingly. perhaps you go out with other guys as well. be busy on a weekend when you want time for yourself and he calls for a date.
I fell for a guy 12 years old than me who was at my hiking group. Over the years we have had a rocky relationship where he would show me interest but would serial date other people. As a result I would ignore him as I was hurt and then he would get annoyed I ignored him but he didn't know why.
We made amends recently but he went back to blowing hot and cold. His brother once told me that he has had a very bad time with relationships and has bad anxiety, I do believe this as he stutters and gets nervous around me. If he is socially awkward how can he ask the majority of the women out of the hiking group? The women get annoyed with his strategy so now he is a member of over 100 hiking groups - something not right there.
I fell hard for this guy even though he let me down many times. He is very impatient and moans a lot, I cannot stand those traits. He will be on a hike soon and I have not seen him in 6 weeks. I am fed up of him leading me on and I hate having feelings for him when I know I deserve better.
I don't want any animosity and don't see why I should avoid the group. Should I go to the walk or completely cut him out of my life? I am having sleepless nights and anxiety attacks over this.
i agree, OP you need to move on. some guys are not into serious relationships for a variety of reasons, and nothing you do will change that. when a guy is ready for a relationship, we generally dive right in with both feet. in fact many times we fall harder for the woman than she does with us.
if you want to continue dating him, then do so with the realization that he is not going to be exclusive to you, and deal with it accordingly. perhaps you go out with other guys as well. be busy on a weekend when you want time for yourself and he calls for a date.
I am surprised the OP did not figure this out in 12 years. Seems like plenty of time ...
Why are you dating a 12 year old? Or did I read that wrong?
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He sounds like a total weirdo.
