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Old 07-13-2017, 01:34 PM
Status: "Mistress of finance and foods." (set 12 days ago)
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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You say, "Everyone whose girlfriend is not pregnant, please step forward."
Boyfriends begins to take a step.
You say, " Not you, boyfriend."
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Old 07-13-2017, 03:05 PM
 
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The reason so many young people are walking around with trauma and mental illness these days is because they were raised by immature, careless, sexually uneducated people who had no business becoming parents.

Don't do that to our society. Abortion or adoption. Tell your BF you have a plan and carry it out. Don't make your mistake his problem.
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Old 07-13-2017, 03:48 PM
 
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Tell the man friend. He is not a boy!

You guys area couple for 4 years. This is not bad news. People slip up while on birth control or dating.

Your life is not over. You have to be more responsible now, will get less sleep for a few months. Paying bills, and acting like an adult, is something you should already be doing. Just a little more sacrifice.

Look at it this way, no more worries of birth control for a couple of months.

People wait a long time to have kids, peocrastinating and putting it off for years. Just go with it .

I would suggest some marriage counseling, if you guys will be parents and taking this new life serious. Do it now, and start off right. Some counseling will slap whatever silly ways a new couple may have dealing with things. Well worth it.

Congrats!
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Old 07-13-2017, 03:56 PM
 
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It is incredible the number of posters who suggest abortion/adoption. This is not a 15 year old girl in trouble.

A twenty something in shock/suprise, an not sure how to proceed. Twenties is the perfect age to start a family. And with a long relationship with her partner, why would things go bad?
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Old 07-13-2017, 04:35 PM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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It is incredible the number of posters who suggest abortion/adoption. This is not a 15 year old girl in trouble.

A twenty something in shock/suprise, an not sure how to proceed. Twenties is the perfect age to start a family. And with a long relationship with her partner, why would things go bad?
Not everyone wants to start a family.

This particular poster is immature to the extent that a full 3 months after learning she is pregnant, she has still not figured out how to inform her soulmate of 4 years. Thus, readers conclude she is not ready for the responsibilities of motherhood.
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Old 07-13-2017, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Honolulu
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Just tell your boyfriend about your pregnancy. He should be more responsible than you are since he relied solely on you to do the birth control.

But you mean during these 4 years, you never talked about some likely consequence with him? Accidental pregnancy or marriage in the future?

If your boyfriend is not committed in the relationship, then I think you should reconsider your options.
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Old 07-13-2017, 04:50 PM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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Send him a link to this music video, it's the title track from the movie.


https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tXgEEccELDo

You young'uns communicate through texts, memes and clips nowadays, regular conversation apparently hasn't occurred to you like, 'what do you want to get for dinner tonight? Oh and by the way we're having a baby.' Maybe this will soften the blow of you withholding such significant information from your partner.
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Old 07-14-2017, 02:56 AM
 
Location: Florida
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In such a circumstance a girl might withhold an announcement, even if subconsciously, just so that the time for an abortion has passed, if she thinks that is what her guy might prefer.
Not saying that's the case here, if this is a real case.
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Old 07-14-2017, 08:01 AM
 
Location: Northern Wisconsin
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Tell you bf and inform him that you'll put the baby up for adoption. Clearly, neither of you are ready to be parents together.
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Old 07-14-2017, 08:09 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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It is incredible the number of posters who suggest abortion/adoption. This is not a 15 year old girl in trouble.

A twenty something in shock/suprise, an not sure how to proceed. Twenties is the perfect age to start a family. And with a long relationship with her partner, why would things go bad?


20 somethings have abortions and give babies up for adoptions too you know. Nothing wrong with it.


And 20s is pretty damn young to start a family.
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