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Who knows what happened? A quick e-mail his way will tell you a lot. Maybe there was a huge catastrophe in his life. A death in the family. Major surgery. House fire. Tornado. IRS audit.
But if it's a garden-variety, "Oh, I've been kind of busy lately," then it means that you are not a priority in his life. Which means he shouldn't be a priority in yours.
Let it go. Move on with your life. If a man is interested, you will know. You enjoyed the emails and the date.
There are a lot of serial daters on and off line. He will contact you if he wants to see you again and you can decide how you want to handle the contact.
Did he seem into you on the first date? I had very similar interactions when I explored dating sites, detailed messages and e-mails, engaging and stimulating conversations, etc., and the best experiences were where the chemistry, intrigue and attraction were mutual and palpable. Those experiences led to dating and relationships.
An absence of chemistry and overall attraction can lead to lukewarm interest. While you could have contacted him, his lack of communication, as he was no stranger to regular communication before the first date, speaks volumes.
Who knows what happened? A quick e-mail his way will tell you a lot. Maybe there was a huge catastrophe in his life. A death in the family. Major surgery. House fire. Tornado. IRS audit.
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If it was something like that, she may still get no response.
If he's no longer interested and has no problem with ghosting, she may still get no response.
If it's the second, she might increase her chances by making it easy for him with some humor.
"I have been worried about you since not hearing from you since our date.
If it's because you died or are in Intensive Care or something like that , please do let me know because I'd like to send flowers."
But If you simply are no longer interested, I can accept that (if you'd say so)and wish you well.
Should I write to him or let it go ? Is it possible that he doesn't write cause he thinks I'm not into him ?
I tend to be a bit reserved on a first date with a perfect stranger, it's hard to be fully warm and yourself the first time, but I still felt like things had gone well, we talked, laughed... It left me wanting to see him again and get to know him better.
What do you think of it, what would you do ?
Did you ever email or text him to thank him for the date? If not, now would be a very good time to do that.
Really, do you think he suddenly forgot how to do what he's been doing for the past couple weeks?
No, I would not contact him. Something happened during the date to confirm that he is not actually into you, but he lacks the maturity to say that. It sucks, but it's part of dating nowadays.
This. People can have great chemistry online and then something's missing in person. Move on and try not to let it get you down. My biggest piece of advice is never let an online relationship go on too long before meeting in person.
That said, I agree with the above poster--he's married or in a serious relationship.
Maybe he's bipolar or just a flake...The red flags to me are the lengthy/intense emails prior to meeting in person, being overly talkative, numerous lengthy emails a day and then nothing. Signs of mania?
Move on. If a guy is really interested you can't keep him away.
Another way to look at this, would you want to be with a guy who flakes like this? If you keep attempting to contact him he might eventually reply but is this really how you want to be treated? My aunt once told me "Remember, a man will never be nicer to you than when you are dating" and there is still some truth to that. I know of women who married flaky men, and even though they remain married, they are miserable. They are the women who cry because their husbands aren't nice to them, never get them a gift, never initiate romance, etc. Do yourself a favor and move on.
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