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And what is to be gained is answering a question from someone I might want to get romantic with, and evading or being dodgy doesn't help facilitate that. I can't think of a reason not to share it, and lots of reasons to share it, if I'm asked.
What reasons? How does it benefit you to share in a text rather than waiting until you meet?
Personally I've never told anyone which specific company I worked for,
I've told what industry I'm in and like a 10 second summary of what my job is, if there is an odd perk or working hours or whatever.
The only reason someone would need to know what exact employer I have is if they intend to mess with it if the relation fails.
(Or later in the relationship if they are going to visit/drop something off for whatever reason, but that's not relevant when you've barely or not even met.)
In your shoes I'd think of a friendly, humorous deflecting response, and then change the topic by asking about something else.
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What reasons? How does it benefit you to share in a text rather than waiting until you meet?
Their being more at ease and their not wondering why I am keeping something that shouldn't a secret withheld is a benefit to me. This should be obvious. My company is on my linkedin, my facebook, my dating apps (so most don't have to ask, its right in there), my OKC profile, my profiles for boards, etc.
Their being more at ease and their not wondering why I am keeping something that shouldn't a secret withheld is a benefit to me. This should be obvious. My company is on my linkedin, my facebook, my dating apps (so most don't have to ask, its right in there), my OKC profile, my profiles for boards, etc.
Why is the place you work so publicize on so many different websites?
Unless you work under a rock or have a very common name, someone can google you and your city and a whole lot more than your place of work will pop up in seconds.
If you are at the point in a relationship where you are sharing last names (which usually happens within an hour for me) then you have nothing to lose by sharing where you work.
I might feel differently if I worked in personal security for a mob boss or something, but as an academic there is quite a bit of info about my career and publishing record available to anyone who feels like looking.
Unless you work under a rock or have a very common name, someone can google you and your city and a whole lot more than your place of work will pop up in seconds.
If you are at the point in a relationship where you are sharing last names (which usually happens within an hour for me) then you have nothing to lose by sharing where you work.
I might feel differently if I worked in personal security for a mob boss or something, but as an academic there is quite a bit of info about my career and publishing record available to anyone who feels like looking.
Even if you don't list it on Facebook or have a LinkedIn profile?
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Why is the place you work so publicize on so many different websites?
Why wouldn't it be? What is private about it? My job and my passions are intertwined. But even before this gig, when I worked at Harvard, etc, it wasn't something I hid. Why would I?
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Even if you don't list it on Facebook or have a LinkedIn profile?
Most are public information and the rest is readily available.
Not hard to find out everywhere you ever lived, work, age, parents and siblings and their address and ages, marriages and duration, divorces and grounds, taxable amount of car purchase, name changes, and much more.
My neighbor didn't believe me. The next day I told her what clubs she belonged to in high school 65 years earlier and all of the places she ever lived. She was amazed.
Now I don't recommend checking out a person's past. You may form an opinion of a person from their past and people change over time. But with all the info available I don't see where telling a person where you work, or at least what company you work for is that big a deal. Put me with the ones that think a person is hiding something or is ashamed by refusing to answer.
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Put me with the ones that think a person is hiding something or is ashamed by refusing to answer.
And this is why it benefits me to answer. Lots of people think like this, especially women that have met guys that turned out to be married... they get scared off by people being overly private.
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