Age of First Sexual Experience - Is this possibly true? (woman, love)

[artsyguy]

Bottum line: STDS are an issue. Sex is easy to do that is why a ton of teens are doing it.

[Barkingowl]

Fifteen would've been great, but I was 21.

[LaoTzuMindFu]

I was the last one of most of my friends to lose his virginity. I was 15.

[NOEM1226]

I would guess this is very accurate. It is spot on for me personally. Yes, it is sad that mere children are having sex-but can anyone convince a 15 year old that this is wise??!? Heck no- they know everything just like we did!

I would say the rate of STDs nowadays is higher. MSN just reported that 1 in 4 teenage girls have at least on STD. Thus making it even more stupid.

[babigyrl5]

Thats old- I was a freshman in high school....14 years old and I was late. I wish I waited so my first could have been someone I would have liked to tell people about though lol. My first time was with my then best friends older brother. I had sex again 6 or 7 months later with my crush and he is the one I tell people I lost it to, hehe

[babigyrl5]

Originally Posted by alteran

Im 21, so it wasnt all that long ago that i was a kid.. LOL, alot of people on this forum probably still consider me a kid.
But I remember sex ed, vaguely, but i remember it and it helped me.
My best friends parents (actually her dad) refused to let her and her sister take sex ed in jr high and high school, the oldest of the 2 was pregnant and married by her second semester of 12th grade.
So teaching abstinance till marriage does not work in my opinion. If kids really want to do it i think they'll just do it. There really is no 100% effective method for making kids wait, give them the facts, ALL the facts, and present them with intelligent decisions, and most kids will make the right decision.
I waited simply because I didn't really see what all the excitement was about.... it didnt seem all that exciting to me, just really gross and sweaty, and there were more fun things to do, like read harry potter and watch star wars...
i dont regret waiting, since i never wanted to date any of my buddies in high school anyway.

off topic, but somewhat related
am i the only young person who can honestly say that ALL of their high school friends are married/engaged now and having kids??
I'm only 21, but even the ones that graduated after i did are all hitched and expecting little ones. Heck, some people are on their 2nd and third children
Maybe its just cuz all my buddies are in the military, seems to happen alot in that setting.

Im 25 and I dont remeber sex ed. The fear of pregnancy and STD's kept me safe, not something I learned in school because I was having sex before sex ed was offered (offered sophmore year, I lost my virginity freshman year). You are right, it really isnt much that can make kids wait- peer pressure is a *****. Though I was the last in my group to lose my virginity, I did it because I was horny (yes I had urges at 14 lol). My parents raised me well, I still dont have any kids or STDs. Yes, i snuck around but it was nothing my parents could have done to stop me. I am not religous but very spiritual and attended church every Sunday then and now, and even the prospect of going to hell wasnt enough to save my virginity (though I have twice been celibate for 2 and 3 years respectivley lol) But all in all the best thing for parents to do is make sure kids know the risks. As far as your friends go, yes, all mine are pregnant, have kids, are getting married or are already married. I started seeing this in high school though, only a few of us now after college are still childless and man-less lol

[babigyrl5]

Originally Posted by drjones96

12...and drunk....wow

Kind of brings up a separate question. Who's first time was actually "good"?

Can it be? lol
my first time was surreal, I remember lying there staring at the ceiling thinking OMG Im having sex lol
my 2nd first time (the one I tell my friends about lol) was horrible, he was a virgin and I had only done it once before months ago so we didnt know what we were doing and it took a while to figure out where to "put it" lol. Luckily he was quick and it was over as soon as he got it in lol

[babigyrl5]

Originally Posted by teatime

Our society has taught young girls, in particular, that innocence is undesirable and something to be shed ASAP. I have no idea why! Someone mentioned those Bratz dolls and they are absolutely revolting. It's difficult to find clothing for girls that doesn't seek to emphasize their sexuality and make them look like street-walkers. Parents are so weak-willed, it seems, that the stuff actually sells!

What about stores like Abercrombie and Target selling thongs and padded bras for pre teens?! I was shocked!!! My mom would not let me shop in vicky secrets till college! And she never bought me a thong or any kind of sexy underwear!

[NOEM1226]

Originally Posted by teatime

How very, very sad. So many kids are confused, unhappy, and looking for escapes, albeit temporary ones. Everything these days is disposable and little is long-lasting, whether it be consumer goods or relationships.

Our society has taught young girls, in particular, that innocence is undesirable and something to be shed ASAP. I have no idea why! Someone mentioned those Bratz dolls and they are absolutely revolting. It's difficult to find clothing for girls that doesn't seek to emphasize their sexuality and make them look like street-walkers. Parents are so weak-willed, it seems, that the stuff actually sells!

Early sexual experience is one of the risk factors for female cancers; the risk of STDs is astronomical, too. When these girls finally settle down and want to have families in the future, many of them find they won't be able to conceive at all or without expensive assistance. How sad!

I am not what you would call a conservative person-but I agree that Bratz dolls are over the edge of appropriate! My daughter asked for one at the ripe age of 5. There is no way. It is no wonder that children are so sexual at young ages-things like this are marketed to their age group! Selling sexuality to 5-7 year olds. There is no wonder.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by buildings_and_bridges

I'm a little dumbfounded by the notion that people ages 11-13 want to have sex. Aren't they still in that phase in which you think the opposite sex (assuming you're interested in the opposite sex) is stupid and/or gross? Have things changed that much, because I can remember around the ages of 12 and 13, girls in my classes were being silly and saying they had crushes on boys in my classes, and the boys seemed horrified and were far more interested in sports.

Well, it was too early for sex in my days, but my classmates had boyfriends at this age. They were going out together - to the movies, to make out in parks, etc. (I'm talking about a different world... not kids living like prisoners in this country) I was an A student and this type wasn't liked... And I did have a huge crush on somebody! As you might've noticed, I can't stand sports and yet pretended to be interested in soccer because of that!

I'd like to know how it even happens here since in most places kids this age have to be driven by somebody wherever they go...