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Old 08-05-2017, 01:39 AM
 
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I recently started dating a new guy and whenever we talk about hooking up he tells me he doesn't want to use a condom. We both got tested for stds and we are both in the clear. I suggested that we use condoms until I find the right birth control for me. We are not having sex at the moment & I told him about my concerns of him leaving me if I get pregnant and he told me he wouldn't and I would move in with him and marry him one day. He also talks a lot about how cute our kids would be and how we would be a cute family. Is he moving too fast in the relationship or am I just freaking out over nothing? We are both in our early 20s.

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Old 08-05-2017, 01:52 AM
 
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You need to get on birth control ASAP like tomorrow.
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Old 08-05-2017, 02:03 AM
 
Location: Florida
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Haven't you learned anything?
It's been what? About 4 or 5 months and you still aren't on birth control?
Just don't listen to any promises and keep your legs crossed.
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Old 08-05-2017, 02:13 AM
 
Location: Earth
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Haven't you learned anything?
It's been what? About 4 or 5 months and you still aren't on birth control?
Just don't listen to any promises and keep your legs crossed.
This.

You already had this issue before
Why the sudden change of heart
I think I'm pregnant
If you haven't learned to consistently use birth control by now, if you don't wanna be a single parent, there's no point for the thread.

And of course the guy is moving fast. Given the dates of your last threads, you can't have been with this guy longer than 4 months.
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Old 08-05-2017, 06:06 AM
 
Location: a primitive state
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If you've been having sex with multiple partners and haven't accepted the fact that YOU need to be responsible for your own reliable birth control, then something is wrong. Sure, some have minor side effects but none are as serious as an unplanned pregnancy.

As far as your partner not wanting to wear condoms, tough. No man likes them. Most women don't enjoy them. Men who are worthy of having sex with you will offer to wear them without your asking.

Raise your standards.
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Old 08-05-2017, 06:24 AM
 
Location: Deep Dirty South
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As far as your partner not wanting to wear condoms, tough. No man likes them. Most women don't enjoy them. Men who are worthy of having sex with you will offer to wear them without your asking.

Raise your standards.
Absolutely. Unfortunately many types of feminine birth control are (or can be) unpleasant and unhealthy for women. So guys, wrap that rascal. Why have your lady take unnecessary medicine or utilize devices that can harm her or cause discomfort?

You are not the one who will be going through gestation or abortion or delivering a baby. Get thee to ye apothecary, buy some raincoats and take five seconds to sheathe yourself.

Of course it sounds like the OPs bf is looking to have kids. Then theres the whole question of will he stick around and pull his weight when there are actual babies to care for. Parenting is the hardest thing you'll ever do and many people aren't up to the realities of it, even if they are in love with the idea of it.
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Old 08-05-2017, 07:13 AM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Both of you are immature.

You are because you STILL have not learned from your mistakes in your last situation. You are still passive about being on birth control and messing around with irresponsible guys.

He is because he has this blasé attitude about safe sex. "Eh if she gets pregnant, I'll just marry her." I mean really? He probably doesn't know the first thing about taking care of children. It's appalling. Is that really somebody you want to be with?

You need to get it together.

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Old 08-05-2017, 07:29 AM
 
Location: Florida
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I recently started dating a new guy and whenever we talk about hooking up he tells me he doesn't want to use a condom. We both got tested for stds and we are both in the clear. I suggested that we use condoms until I find the right birth control for me. We are not having sex at the moment & I told him about my concerns of him leaving me if I get pregnant and he told me he wouldn't and I would move in with him and marry him one day. He also talks a lot about how cute our kids would be and how we would be a cute family. Is he moving too fast in the relationship or am I just freaking out over nothing? We are both in our early 20s.
If that's how he feels even after this short period of time, then get married now, not one day, and forget the condoms!
Oh, you don't know each other well enough for that?


He's probably gotten away with it so far and just like driving drunk, so many young people always figure "It'll never happen to me".
He's just telling you whatever he has to to get in your pants his way.
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Old 08-05-2017, 08:30 AM
 
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Plan B should always be plan A.

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Old 08-05-2017, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Dallas Texas
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Use the other hole then...
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