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OK wait so I am confused. Like if you are sitting at the dinner table:
"Please pass the salt MARY"
"Thank you MARY"
"I'm going to the men's room MARY"
"I would like dessert how about you MARY?
"Can I come in for a nightcap MARY?"
"Thanks for the nice evening MARY"
I mean I don't get it. Like, "Hey Mary how are you?". Then how many more times do you need him to say your name in that conversation or through out the evening? Or even "Hi beautiful how was your day?" You feel disrespected because he didn't say "Hi Mary"?
So I am 1 week away from a month trip out of the country so I am just relaxed and also besides that he's really a great guy so that's why I keep seeing him. The thing here is that if he told me that I would try to fix it but he doesn't .
He's a really great guy, but he won't say your name, in how many weeks of dating him and chatting at the gym? He's a really great guy, but won't say your name ever, even after you ask him to? Yeah, we know what "the thing here is"; it's that he doesn't get that it's important to you to be acknowledged in this way, and he avoids doing it, even after you explained how important to you it is. What some of us are saying is that you need to think about the implications of that.
By continuing to hang out with him, you're sending him a signal that in fact, it's OK with you that he doesn't use your name when speaking to you. You're signaling that you've decided it ISN'T important to you, after all.
Make up your mind about what's really important to you, then act accordingly.
OK wait so I am confused. Like if you are sitting at the dinner table:
"Please pass the salt MARY"
"Thank you MARY"
"I'm going to the men's room MARY"
"I would like dessert how about you MARY?
"Can I come in for a nightcap MARY?"
"Thanks for the nice evening MARY"
I mean I don't get it. Like, "Hey Mary how are you?". Then how many more times do you need him to say your name in that conversation or through out the evening? Or even "Hi beautiful how was your day?" You feel disrespected because he didn't say "Hi Mary"?
Probably once per conversation would be enough, don't you think? Do you really think the OP is asking for something extreme? I don't believe you do. This is just a typical C-D response of taking things to extremes.
Probably something like, "Hi, Jane" at the beginning of a conversation at the gym, say, would be enough. Vs. simply walking up to her and saying "Hey" every time. Maybe she doesn't like being called "Hey". If that's a thing with her, it's an effortless adjustment to make. She's not asking him to part the Red Sea for her. It's not unreasonable.
This is just a typical C-D response of taking things to extremes.
You're the one who, given the options of,
1) assume the worst
2) maybe he's, like other people, just not used to using people's names in conversation
chose 1.
OK wait so I am confused. Like if you are sitting at the dinner table:
"Please pass the salt MARY"
"Thank you MARY"
"I'm going to the men's room MARY"
"I would like dessert how about you MARY?
"Can I come in for a nightcap MARY?"
"Thanks for the nice evening MARY"
I mean I don't get it. Like, "Hey Mary how are you?". Then how many more times do you need him to say your name in that conversation or through out the evening? Or even "Hi beautiful how was your day?" You feel disrespected because he didn't say "Hi Mary"?
So, that's the thing. Instead of using my name he'll be like:
"Please pass the salt"
"Thank you "
"I'm going to the men's room "
"I would like dessert how about you ?
"Can I come in for a nightcap ?"
"Thanks for the nice evening "
He's just talking like that, never using my name. I find that really weird too since I will talk to people the way you mention in your example.
Prehapes knowing each other for only three weeks in a sortsmenship-like setting is a factor in why he speaks to you this way?
Have you ever spoken outside of basketball or outside of the gym alone?
Yes, we did many times. I thought the same thing, maybe because we don't know each other well, but in fact we see each other 3-4 times a week at games at least which is not that bad
Probably once per conversation would be enough, don't you think? Do you really think the OP is asking for something extreme? I don't believe you do. This is just a typical C-D response of taking things to extremes.
Probably something like, "Hi, Jane" at the beginning of a conversation at the gym, say, would be enough. Vs. simply walking up to her and saying "Hey" every time. Maybe she doesn't like being called "Hey". If that's a thing with her, it's an effortless adjustment to make. She's not asking him to part the Red Sea for her. It's not unreasonable.
Thanx. This is exactly how I feel. I don't want him to use it in every sentence but mentioning it once in a while would be nice.
Apparently it's a common sign that he could be a womanizer.
Thanx . I did google it before but couldn't find a solution of my problem. Obviously when it becomes a habit is difficult to change.
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