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To start off with some context we have been together for 2 years. We are both 16 years old and in high school. He drives a big pickup truck that doesn't take damage easily.
So yesterday we were eating lunch together at a local cafe. When we finished and he was backing out of the parking space he misjudged the distance of the parked car next to his truck and ended up leaving a long scratch, maybe 2 feet long and a few inches wide, down the side of the car. His truck had zero damage but the scratch was very noticeable on the car. I told him that he should leave a note but he said that it wasn't a big deal because his truck had no damage and the car only had a scratch, so he drove away.
I've felt guilty about it ever since and I really just don't know what to do. I don't want to risk our relationship so I'm scared to do anything. Is it really not a big deal? Or if it is a big deal can I do anything without risking our relationship?
I would have done the smart thing and turned him in for a hit and run.
It doesn't matter that HIS vehicle sustained no damage, he CAUSED damage to the other vehicle. Paint scratches are not cheap to fix, because sometimes the entire paneling must be repainted. It's his responsibility to pay for the damage he caused.
And if you are "scared" to do anything maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with this guy. He doesn't seem to comprehend the concept of taking responsibility for his actions when he causes damage to other people's property.
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Think of what else he is capable of when he thinks no one is looking. Probably a lot to do with being young and dumb, but he showed himself to you, believe that is exactly who he is presently. He can change for the better but probably no time soon.
Your BF has no character. I'm sure he already knows he has done at least 2K in damage to someone else's property. If he had come back to his truck and found that much damage to something he owns - would he be so nonchalant about it?
That goes for both of them, but being 16, I think a lot teens would just drive away.
Personally, if I were you, OP. Id give your bf an ultimatum; that if he doesn't take responsibility he'd find himself without a gf.
Don't be afraid to lose this guy, because chances are good, you wont be together forever anyway.
If I accidentally backed up into something like this, I probably would just drive off
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