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Old 09-01-2017, 08:23 AM
 
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You gotta love these forums. People feel bold enough to ask rhetorical questions that they would NEVER say if that person were actually standing in front of them.
I don't think it's particularly bold, and I certainly do it in real life. If an elderly person I knew started talking down young people, I would certainly ask if the young people in his life acted the same way he is describing. Nothing rhetorical about it. I typically try to poke holes in unfair stereotypes propagated by people who lack insight and direct experience with those groups.
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Old 09-01-2017, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Different approaches for different people. IE my roommates. One is a Tinder pro who is an ace in hooking up with Tinderellas. Another is more of a wooing guy. Both roads lead to sex and neither is wrong.
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Old 09-01-2017, 09:01 AM
 
Location: London
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I was going to say this, but didn't, in my earlier post, but I see our irrepressible Zennie said it for me.

Why do you ask, OP? Toying with the idea of putting yourself back out there, at some point?
Go for it! This new generation could teach you a thing or two.
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Old 09-01-2017, 09:03 AM
 
Location: London
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I'll be 49 in two weeks. I am not a prude and have absolutely no moral issue with one night stands or hookups, it's just not right for me.

I may be old fashioned in this, but I do still believe if I genuinely like a woman and hope to spend time with her doing things beyond just knocking boots, that courting her and earning her trust and affection is a worthwhile approach.

To me that's the difference between romance and scratching an itch.

Is this considered ridiculous now? I am sure I am not alone in this.

Do you have kids? You sound like you are a good father. Right thinking to teach us kids.
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Old 09-01-2017, 09:04 AM
 
Location: London
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No, I don't waste my time with primitive rituals. If she's not putting out within the first week, another one will. Thankfully, men are getting smarter and aren't wasting money and time on dates like men of older generations did.
How crude. I hope you don't have a daughter. Imagine another man telling her to put it out or he'll find another woman will
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Old 09-01-2017, 09:20 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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How crude. I hope you don't have a daughter. Imagine another man telling her to put it out or he'll find another woman will


Eh, its crude, but both sexes do it. I've seen no shortage of women that have declined third dates or whatever because they guy didn't even try to bone em.


Each to their own, but I still see plenty of courting and romance, it just comes after the baseline attraction and compatibility has been established. The courting comes when courting for an actual monogamous or committed relationship.
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Old 09-01-2017, 10:09 AM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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Eh, its crude, but both sexes do it. I've seen no shortage of women that have declined third dates or whatever because they guy didn't even try to bone em.


Each to their own, but I still see plenty of courting and romance, it just comes after the baseline attraction and compatibility has been established. The courting comes when courting for an actual monogamous or committed relationship.
Yep. I had several dates that were all about romance and courting. I certainly wasn't against casual dating and ONS at one point in time, but enjoyed wooing and romance with actual matches/compatible partners. I dated quite a few guys that were hopeful romantics and were very sincere about their interest. Romance definitely isn't out of style.
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Old 09-01-2017, 10:09 AM
 
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Direct answer : No. It's gone in Europe.

I was traveling totally over 10 years through the world.
I used to live in Europe & former USSR nations.
Now I am traveling Balkan countries.

After Google & Facebook had become popular, people
around the world started to be less romantic and
political, especially women. Out of control.
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Old 09-01-2017, 10:33 AM
 
Location: Elsewhere
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I'll be 49 in two weeks. I am not a prude and have absolutely no moral issue with one night stands or hookups, it's just not right for me.

I may be old fashioned in this, but I do still believe if I genuinely like a woman and hope to spend time with her doing things beyond just knocking boots, that courting her and earning her trust and affection is a worthwhile approach.

To me that's the difference between romance and scratching an itch.

Is this considered ridiculous now? I am sure I am not alone in this.
No. It's not ridiculous at all.
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Old 09-01-2017, 10:51 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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How crude. I hope you don't have a daughter. Imagine another man telling her to put it out or he'll find another woman will
Said daughter would not be a helpless victim like you are portraying. She would have a choice in that instance unless dude is pointing a weapon.
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