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Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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Originally Posted by tinyhandschrump
Never had this problem, but as long as you can pay your own way, you shouldn't let it bother you. Only time it might be a problem is if you're dating bums who don't want to pay for their own food and think they're owed something just because of their gender.
I was thinking more like needing $ for trips, expensive shows, $$ gifts, etc.
Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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Originally Posted by CBeisbol
What?
I don't try to impress anyone with money.
I try to impress them with myself. Well, no, I don't really do that. I act myself and if anyone is impressed, so be it.
I didn't mean impress them with $. More like blowing $75 for movie, dinner and drinks kinda thing.
Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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Originally Posted by zoomzoom3
Hasn't really affected me no matter what my income was. Since I've been single I've made as much as $200K/year self employed and as little as $14/hr after being unemployed and having to take a survival job and dating has more a less been the same. I bring a lot more to the table than just a job title and paycheck though.
Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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Originally Posted by stan4
I can tell you that if I had no money, I would focus my energy on acquiring a more stable condition before I worried about dating.
But that's just me.
Yes, generally good advice. Foundational basics first.
But some people just don't earn very much. Just how they are. I guess this post is more for the people that don't produce much financially.
A good example is an artist that dedicates themselves to their art. They may bring in enuf $ from odd jobs to live...just. But their main goal is to do their art. Consequently they never have much extra $ to spend. Any $ goes for survival.
Location: Born in L.A. - NYC is Second Home - Rustbelt is Home Base
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Originally Posted by Liberty2011
Oh thank goodness you came out from lurking to trot out your tired old refrain about women not having to pay.
Meanwhile in the real world, anyone who doesn't have any money for dating may not have money for a lot of other things in life, like rent and bills. Someone might come along and list all the free things to do in a city, but free things still require transportation to get to, and food or drink might be needed or desired. I enjoy many free activities but I don't think I'd enjoy it as much if that's all I could do, and couldn't afford any other option.
Yes, that is a good summation. No money for dating, probably little money for survival.
Of course that pretty much defines the old school bohemians. The bohemians sometime bring an interesting personality to the mix. I guess they can pay with that if the other party finds it of interest.
Bohemians are having tough time nowadays though. Skyrocketing rents. Few real bohemians in the Village any longer. All they got is somewhat well off boho chic types. (Or they got 3 roommates)
I think there's something to the idea of living with the consequences of your choices. If you choose to live a Bohemian lifestyle (or whatever you want to call it), then you probably ought to realize that you're in no position to start a family. And that that would be irresponsible.
Unlike a lot of the friends I have who are extremely talented musically and artistically but have day jobs and do that stuff on the side.
I'm talking about paid gigs, art exhibitions, and published authors talented.
I don't think you actually have to starve to be an artist dedicated to your art.
Does lack of $ shut down your dating ambitions? Or do you just wing it and act as if?
Some of the best, most creative and fun dates I have ever been on have been with people without money. I went out last week with a guy. We went on a picnic by the lake with a baguette, some cheese and veggies and fruit. I really had a chance to get to know him. We talked and laughed. Watched the sunset. It was awesome!
If money is an obstacle for a person, do you want to be with that person?
I was thinking more like needing $ for trips, expensive shows, $$ gifts, etc.
Oh... You're picturing money for things you need to buy? So you actually kind of like women, like a normal guy? You're not going to be lording over your happy meal, ready to stab her little money-grubbing hand with your plastic fork when she tries to hold your hand, and you thought she was going to steal your fries?
Well then, if you're planning ahead for a date and you're kind and considerate, you're going to have a better chance than some of these guys.
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Originally Posted by RbccL
Oh... You're picturing money for things you need to buy? So you actually kind of like women, like a normal guy? You're not going to be lording over your happy meal, ready to stab her little money-grubbing hand with your plastic fork when she tries to hold your hand, and you thought she was going to steal your fries?
Well then, if you're planning ahead for a date and you're kind and considerate, you're going to have a better chance than some of these guys.
I think you can like a woman but be reserved and frugal in the beginning with your money. I think they can coexist.
I didn't mean impress them with $. More like blowing $75 for movie, dinner and drinks kinda thing.
But plenty of women would be okay with sharing the cost--you pay for dinner, she pays for tickets--you just have to find them.
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