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I have never been in a relationship that involved him asking for money/loan. I would tell him that I didn't have the money. My thoughts are, what would he do if he didn't know me?
I have been dating a guy for 5 months. Now he's asking me can I loan him a $1000 to pay his bills, I don't want to do it! What should I do
He must be months behind in paying bills if he owes $1000. If you give him money today, in a couple of months he'll ask for more money. When he knows you're all tapped out, he will disappear and find another woman to give him money. You need to read about con men.
Tell him that you can't spare the money and that you don't want to see him until he has sorted out his financial problems.
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Don't get hooked up with someone (either sex!) who has to borrow money. It is an indication that they may not be responsible for their own debts. I would NEVER get involved with a man who asked me for money.
A thousand dollars is a lot of money - tell him you don't have it to spare. If you "loan" him money it is doubtful you'll see it again and will just end up loaning him more and more over time.
I have been dating a guy for 5 months. Now he's asking me can I loan him a $1000 to pay his bills, I don't want to do it! What should I do
That's a lot of money! You haven't known him long enough to make a big loan, for one thing. But it's too much money. Does he think money grows on trees? Tell him you can't spare it; tell him anything--you're still paying off student loans, so you don't have the money, or it would wreck your emergency fund to loan him a huge amount like that, whatever. I HOPE you expressed shock when he made that request! Wow!
I have been dating a guy for 5 months. Now he's asking me can I loan him a $1000 to pay his bills, I don't want to do it! What should I do
Unless he is willing to sit down and go over his income and expenses with you for the last several months in great detail (and I seriously doubt he will be willing), I would say no. People who get in financial trouble are almost always there for a reason. It's not random. Like alcoholics, they don't change unless they really want to. In the meantime, they look for enablers to keep them in their bad habits.
I also really like the idea of asking for collateral like the title to his car.
If he asked to borrow a dollar for coffee maybe. Asking for $1000 is totally different. You are doing him a bigger favor by refusing politely.
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