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Old 10-08-2017, 01:48 PM
 
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I told you so, I await my rep points as well. Tinder is viewed by men as a hookup app, plain and simple. The devolved US hookup culture will always invade and disease every form of online dating. Because it's viewed as the easiest way to play the numbers game and spam 1,000 women in one day with penith pics. The only sites that are an exception are the ones that have a controlled system.

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Old 10-08-2017, 01:53 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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I told you so, I await my rep points as well. Tinder is viewed by men as a hookup app, plain and simple. The hookup culture will always invade and disease every form of online dating because it's viewed as the easiest way to play the numbers game and spam 1,000 women in one day. The only sites that are an exception are the ones that have a controlled system.
Tinder might be viewed as a hookup app, but that doesn't mean every person uses it for that.
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Old 10-08-2017, 03:39 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well well well.........do I at least get rep points for calling it all along???

And no you did NOT know, you were in denial when I told you so!!
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I told you so, I await my rep points as well.

Here you go, guys. Congrats :

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Old 10-08-2017, 04:19 PM
 
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^^ hahahahaha thanks
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Old 10-08-2017, 04:23 PM
 
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LOL this story is so stereotypical! These guys think they're SO original. But I get the OP...this freakout happesn to the best of us and her reaction is just her anxiety trying to make sense of her intuition.

I recently went out on a first date with a "fantastic" guy and we met up at a popular part of town for bar hopping. I told him I don't really drink but whatever..I'll have just one. We ended up at one bar where the bartender made my drink SUPER strong...I remember almost asking him if he knew her cause I just had that vibe that he was probably a regular there (as in always took first dates there).

We connected really well...figured out he lied about how he wants to get married and have kids. It was even on his online profile. he kept asking me all these questions about my view on LTR and marriage..even did the textbook statement of "I always want to know where a woman's head is at cause I always deal with the last guy's mistakes" uhuh..I played along but I knew what he was getting at. We had spent 5 hours together, and made out pretty heavily about half that time LOL...I didn't think anything of it..other than "this is good..I'll definitely enjoy sex with him once we get to that point". I didn't sleep with him that night, and he never pressured me to go home with him. he initiated contact the next day but was definitely more cold. Obviously was trying to hit it and quit it that night and was mad I wasn't the one to try to take it to one of our places. He still kept in touch but barely-just like the OP's story..was always "passed out" whenever I texted good night or something short to him so he'd text the next day or days later saying "he was passed out"...right...passed out, as in sleeping with other women. I was out of town the following weekend after we met, and I guess he forgot, cause he tried to see me. once I was back, he was over it. I finally dropped a line saying it would be great to see him that weekend after talking about plans for the weekend (weekend after I got back) and he mocked me with sarcastic/smart *ss texts. So i nicely told him off. I refuse to be strung along for someone's lied about agenda...wanted to believe he wasn't a player since he seemed so serious about finding something real..but his actions said the complete opposite.

bottom line, they may do slightly different things from the last player, different verbiage, different places...but it's all the same. And while I don't prefer to sleep with a guy on the 3rd date, its still not as soon as the 1st. This guy I met had zero right to be passive aggressively angry that I didn't beg for him on the 1st date..ridiculous..and disrespectful.

Men like this should just pursue other women who also only want casual sex/ONS and leave us serious ones out of it.

I'm really sorry for the good ones online who have to compete with this crap. That's why I'm a huge advocate of talking to women everywhere you go! this is why we want you to talk to us.
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Old 10-08-2017, 06:07 PM
 
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
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Maybe they would do it with another guy that early, maybe they wouldn't.

I don't really care. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. Why even bother concerning yourself with that sort of thinking?

I would just assume she's really into me, which is a good thing, lol.

Also, if anything, it would mean that she desires and loves sex (another huge pro), and isn't playing this intentional game of waiting weeks till we do it.

Then again, I know I'm probably in the minority of guys that feel this way. I've never cared whatsoever about this whole challenge or mystery thing. It's just nonsense, in my opinion.

Btw, 3rd-4th date isn't that early to have sex.
Couldn't rep you again.
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Old 10-08-2017, 08:37 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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Maybe they would do it with another guy that early, maybe they wouldn't.

I don't really care. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. Why even bother concerning yourself with that sort of thinking?

I would just assume she's really into me, which is a good thing, lol.

Also, if anything, it would mean that she desires and loves sex (another huge pro), and isn't playing this intentional game of waiting weeks till we do it.

Then again, I know I'm probably in the minority of guys that feel this way. I've never cared whatsoever about this whole challenge or mystery thing. It's just nonsense, in my opinion.

Btw, 3rd-4th date isn't that early to have sex.
While I'm not surprised by it here, the opposite sentiment doesn't represent the men I dated, but then hey didn't have hangups about women's sex lives. They weren't the least bit "old fashioned" about women's sexuality.
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Old 10-08-2017, 08:39 PM
 
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Maybe they would do it with another guy that early, maybe they wouldn't.

I don't really care. It wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. Why even bother concerning yourself with that sort of thinking?

I would just assume she's really into me, which is a good thing, lol.

Also, if anything, it would mean that she desires and loves sex (another huge pro), and isn't playing this intentional game of waiting weeks till we do it.


Then again, I know I'm probably in the minority of guys that feel this way. I've never cared whatsoever about this whole challenge or mystery thing. It's just nonsense, in my opinion.

Btw, 3rd-4th date isn't that early to have sex.
I guess you're The Guy Who Knows Women today.

I just can't think of a bigger idiot than a guy who tries to have sex with a lady he's attracted to, then runs off: "ha ha, I said nice things and got you to have sex with me, byeee!"...then has to go find another one the next time he feels the urge, when he already had one who wanted to be with him? Who's he fooling with that neat little trick?

Meanwhile the woman is like but I wanted to have sex, I liked him...that's not what he wanted?

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Old 10-08-2017, 08:58 PM
 
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I guess you're The Guy Who Knows Women today.

I just can't think of a bigger idiot than a guy who tries to have sex with a lady he's attracted to, then runs off: "ha ha, I said nice things and got you to have sex with me, byeee!"...then has to go find another one the next time he feels the urge, when he already had one who wanted to be with him? Who's he fooling with that neat little trick?

Meanwhile the woman is like but I wanted to have sex, I liked him...that's not what he wanted?

I've always wondered this. Do men really enjoy having to find more sex with more women over working for it with one woman in a relationship??? so baffling. If you're already having sex with someone who wants to with you, why not keep her so you don't constantly have to keep going out to look for it? Men are kings are making their lives harder than it has to be though so not surprising.

Like if you're gonna put in that much work to have sex...you're already pursuing a relationship...so seal the deal with that, not just sex

If you're a guy that wants regular sex...man...get a girlfriend
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Old 10-08-2017, 09:33 PM
 
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I've always wondered this. Do men really enjoy having to find more sex with more women over working for it with one woman in a relationship??? so baffling. If you're already having sex with someone who wants to with you, why not keep her so you don't constantly have to keep going out to look for it? Men are kings are making their lives harder than it has to be though so not surprising.

Like if you're gonna put in that much work to have sex...you're already pursuing a relationship...so seal the deal with that, not just sex

If you're a guy that wants regular sex...man...get a girlfriend
Some men just like the chase... deal with it.
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