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Old 09-27-2017, 07:19 AM
 
Location: Jupiter
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Agree.

The thing is the sexy 20 year old is nearly always doing or has any of the following...

Playing with her phone, or talking on her phone

Has headphones on, listening to music

Already has a bf


So if u get an opening with one, and she gives u a sign she is interested in u.....u cant hesitate.
Opportunities like that dont come around often.

You gotta take it. I did, and we were together for 2 and a half years.
Agreed. I did this and took the situation real quick and we will hang out today after her class ends.
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Old 09-27-2017, 07:35 AM
 
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People toss this mess out without any thought! I've never met and dated a 30-something who has the same goals as I do. Mine = family. Theirs typically = be a wage slave and travel the world. Very compatible, indeed.

There's a reason 38-year old lawyers are left scrambling on OD sites. Guys they want to date aren't trying to compete with a potential spouse to see who can top 75 hours during the work week. Guys missing a swell wife and kids aren't looking for a competition at home, too.
I can't think of any 30-something women who work 75 hour weeks. 45? 50 in a tech startup? Sure.

That "wage slave" probably has a decade+ of maxed out 401(k), owns a home with a ton of equity, has an emergency fund, and tons of disposable income to buy stuff you're jealous of and travel. If you're not on that kind of life track, why would they be interested in you?

There's a reason why reproductive rates among college educated women are so low. Apparently, this is their dating pool.
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Old 09-27-2017, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Middle America
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I was a single woman, no kids at 35, which is when I met my husband, a single man with no kids who was 40.

We got married when I was 37, and have a two-year old and a four month old.
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Old 09-27-2017, 11:18 AM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I was a single woman, no kids at 35, which is when I met my husband, a single man with no kids who was 40.

We got married when I was 37, and have a two-year old and a four month old.
As we all know, there are scads of single, child-free women in society. It turns out, the OP isn't asking a general question. He's asking about Rochester, NY, where women tend to marry young, except for the college crowds, of which there are several in and around Rochester. There are at least two universities that offer programs all the way through the PhD level, in fact.

The OP hasn't shown interest in taking any of the advice offered him here, so I can only conclude that this is a whiner thread, not a sincere request for info or help.
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Old 09-27-2017, 11:53 AM
 
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So? They go other places besides to class and back to the dorms. Maybe not as much as other folks, but it sounds to me like you're not out and about at the right times/enough.

So what? Most good women are going to be taken. What's your point? You plan on growing old waiting for a window where they're single?

BS. Like I said 27 is a sweet spot. Women like older guys. At your age you should have no problem dating an 18 year old if you want. 30 is sort of a mental cutoff here, but again easy enough to work around. Realistically you shouldn't have trouble getting women in her 20's until somewhere around 45-50. Even at 60, if you take care of yourself, you shouldn't have too much trouble dating a woman in her 30's if you so choose.

This age thing is all in your head.

I can't really speak to Rochester, but if it's anything like Buffalo you should have plenty of options.
I agree, 27 is the perfect age for a guy..even the early 30's can be excellent. This is clearly a case of doing something wrong since they are in a semi normal metro. I would love to go back and be able to date at 27 again, I had a gf at the time but she was not right for me and I squandered some years, ah hindsight.
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Old 09-27-2017, 01:38 PM
 
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I met a 19 year old a few days ago, who is a nursing major at school. Much to my surprise, she is single. Since most women in college aren't single, whenever a situation like that arises you have to take it quick. I don't care what others say as long as she's 18 or older, she is an adult and if we like each other what's the problem?
Where did you meet her?
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Old 09-27-2017, 01:40 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I meet single, never married, no kids, college educated professional women (in shape at that) in their mid 30s to mid 40s every single darn week even after moving to a third/fourth tier city. They're not hard to find.
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Old 09-27-2017, 01:40 PM
 
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So? They go other places besides to class and back to the dorms. Maybe not as much as other folks, but it sounds to me like you're not out and about at the right times/enough.
Where do you think is a good place to meet 18-20 yr old women besides college?
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Old 09-27-2017, 01:44 PM
 
Location: Crook County, Hellinois
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I agree, 27 is the perfect age for a guy..even the early 30's can be excellent. This is clearly a case of doing something wrong since they are in a semi normal metro. I would love to go back and be able to date at 27 again, I had a gf at the time but she was not right for me and I squandered some years, ah hindsight.
I agree: it's a great age. Not too old to date feisty, attractive college women, and not too young to date mellow, mature older women.

On a personal note, age 28 was when I finally squashed the last remainder of my shyness, that I struggled with my entire young life. Joining Meetup, and its welcoming atmosphere, has been extremely helpful with achieving that. Which, in the end, worked wonderfully in my favor when I took a cruise by myself two years later. I reap the benefits to this day.
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Old 09-27-2017, 01:52 PM
 
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I meet single, never married, no kids, college educated professional women (in shape at that) in their mid 30s to mid 40s every single darn week even after moving to a third/fourth tier city. They're not hard to find.
You should get into business of introducing them to the troubled population of CD forums. For a small fee of course
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