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To me, It's kind of like wanting to paint a picture. Some people have a natural gift and paint beautiful paintings, getting the subtleties of light and shadow, and that there's green, and blue green, and mint green, and red, and fuschia and magenta...etc. They know a tree trunk is more than 'just brown' and they know how to paint one.
Other people want a pretty picture too, but don't have the natural talent for it. So they take a class, and learn about techniques, and they practice and practice, and maybe eventually, produce a painting they're happy with.
Other people...even with the lessons, are not going to produce much of a painting, so they resort to paint by numbers.
But I'll say this... I don't think anyone should say "Hey, it just all came so naturally to me" cause I think all of us can say we learned a few lessons along the way to happy romance.
Is it just me, or does it seem that too many people (mostly men; don't fret, I'm a guy as well) try to intellectually quantify romance? By that, I mean there seems to be a lot of analysis paralysis in this realm by people who think that romance is a science that can be broken down. Terms like hypergamy, gaming the opposite sex, scales, etc. are often thrown around in the quest for clarity on romance.
I think those things are trying to quantify the acquisition of sex and has nothing to do with romance, relationship or anything of the latter sort. Just as ineffective. That is why they are here.
For me it was mostly woo woo,dreamt of him a year before I met him,didn't think much of him definitely not my type,then started having crazy electricity with him,I see plenty of guys everyday I don't have any electricity with them.Fell in love with him,full of drama,passion and scenes.Dreamt of my past life with him and started to remember it.For me it was the meeting of old soul ties which also drew me to him.With probably also some psychological remnants like sonic spork said,and probably also some good provider etc things keeping me interested.It can be all three.
The subject reminds me of a post I read here recently that was something like: "I read about this in a book about dating."
No one is going to get it by reading a book, reading opinions on the internet, studying algorithms, whether proved to be accurate or not-- you have to get out there and experience it. Everybody needs different things. I thought I wanted one thing, and I was wrong, not because I read about it. My experience trumps your book.
You guys, you're like arguing, kinda the same thing...there...
That's what I'm trying to convince left-handed of
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