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It may come as a surprise to you but there is no one definition of who is good looking for women. We don't all think that Brad Pitt is good looking.
Do all men like the exact same women? No, of course not. You've all got different tastes.
There are women out there that will like you if you started thinking of them as individuals instead of a code to break. Of course, if you're one of those guys that insists on only the best, then no wonder you're not getting anywhere.
almost every women I've heard talk about him say he's good looking..looks aren't as subjective as you say..women on dating sites viewed 80% of the men below average looking so at least with initial physical attraction most women find the same small group of classically handsome guys attractive
No I don't go after the "best" but I have to be physically attracted or I'm not interested
It's not like at another venue women are somehow gonna pick me over him..that's never gonna happen
No, but if you're having zero success meeting women at the bars, then maybe you do need another venue where women will see you in a different light and get to know your personality. Someplace where you're not competing with you suaver friend for attention.
No, but if you're having zero success meeting women at the bars, then maybe you do need another venue where women will see you in a different light and get to know your personality. Someplace where you're competing with you suaver friend for attention.
They've chosen him over me at laid back house parties/gatherings as well..social circle etc..venue doesn't matter
Hell my friend who I knew for years and clams she loves me more then anything won't seem to date me..if you don't pass the physical threshold you don't have much chance
almost every women I've heard talk about him say he's good looking..looks aren't as subjective as you say..women on dating sites viewed 80% of the men below average looking so at least with initial physical attraction most women find the same small group of classically handsome guys attractive
No I don't go after the "best" but I have to be physically attracted or I'm not interested
So how is this different from a woman saying she's only interested in tall guys because that's who she's attracted to? Height is a physical characteristic, no?
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almost every women I've heard talk about him say he's good looking..looks aren't as subjective as you say..women on dating sites viewed 80% of the men below average looking so at least with initial physical attraction most women find the same small group of classically handsome guys attractive
No I don't go after the "best" but I have to be physically attracted or I'm not interested
This doesn't follow logically. Even if women find only 20% physically good looking from their pics, there is no reason to believe it is the same 20% for each one of them.
They've chosen him over me at laid back house parties/gatherings as well..venue doesn't matter
What about outside of nightlife? Classes? Hobbies? Organizations?
Some guys won't believe me, but when I go out to bars, I never get hit on, because it's not my scene. I've never been the kind of woman that a man crosses a crowded room to talk to. I have much more success when not surrounded by loud music and drunk people, and I can work my mojo with my stunning personality. Maybe it'd be the same for you.
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What about outside of nightlife? Classes? Hobbies? Organizations?
Some guys won't believe me, but when I go out to bars, I never get hit on, because it's not my scene. I have much more success when not surrounded by loud music and drunk people, and I can work my mojo with my stunning personality. Maybe it'd be the same for you.
Ehh my friend claims she loves me more then anything and doesn't look like she'll date me..so even that doesn't seem to spark attraction unless a women is physically attracted to you.
So how is this different from a woman saying she's only interested in tall guys because that's who she's attracted to? Height is a physical characteristic, no?
I have a pretty diverse taste in women..when a women says she only goes out with guys over 6 feet you're already eliminating about 90% of the male population with that one trait alone before you even get into other traits.
What about outside of nightlife? Classes? Hobbies? Organizations?
Some guys won't believe me, but when I go out to bars, I never get hit on, because it's not my scene. I have much more success when not surrounded by loud music and drunk people, and I can work my mojo with my stunning personality. Maybe it'd be the same for you.
Exactly. People aren't at their best when they're in an environment that they're not comfortable in, or don't particularly care for.
The last time I went to a bar it was with some friends where we got to drink wine and paint pictures. There were a couple of men there, not many, and they were great! Funny, artistic...got along with them well, but they weren't my 'romantic type' I'm not looking for me.
That's why I did use online dating, I don't get to hang out at construction sites and farm fields, where I can mingle with the kind of guy I have been been typically attracted to and got along with. That's why I used OLD, and now I'm done.
Have you not read the thread? Ain't no woman here said anything about getting up in arms about dudes' preferences. You prefer DDs, DDDs, fine. Soft, refined features, cool. Doe eyes, blue eyes, natural blonde hair, great. A certain butt shape, as opposed to flat, awesome. Fancy yourself a petite lady, fantastic.
It's not really a big deal just because I don't possess specific traits others may like, traits I can't control.
Some of y'all act like you get beat down for stating you like this or that and "that's just how it is," but then get cozy with your sad feelings because some women have their own preferences that exclude some men.
Get over it already.
Lol you missed my point completely. I also said the whole issue is whatever.
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