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I never ignore my girlfriend, I listen to her concerns. To be fair, my old friend has jealousy issues that I think stem from her mental illness, and it has caused some turbulence in my current relationship with my girlfriend.
I never ignore my girlfriend, I listen to her concerns. To be fair, my old friend has jealousy issues that I think stem from her mental illness, and it has caused some turbulence in my current relationship with my girlfriend.
Are you willing to allow your friend's issues to chase off your current girlfriend or future ones? That's not something a friend should be doing, and I question how healthy it is for you to be in such close contact with this friend.
I had a female friend whom lived with me for a year, and is a bit mentally ill. We were not sexual, although she did want to be sexual. Now she lives in another state and we communicate daily. I care a lot for her.
Now, my current girlfriend doesn't want me speaking to her at all. Is this right for her to ask of me?
Any ultimatum gets show the door immediately especially when it comes to friends and family.
I do not and will not ask anyone's permission to talk to and be friends with anyone I want to.
Your girlfriend has a right to be upset. Daily communication seems to me is excessive. I know I would be upset with that.
You need to evaulate who you care for the most, and proceed accordingly.
So he should ask his girlfriend's permission to get dressed, eat, shower, pp, drive, call his Mother?
The girlfriend has no *right* to be upset, especially when the friendship preceded the girlfriend for at least one year and probably 2 or 3 years.
The girlfriend is controlling and manipulative giving an *ultimatum*, HA.......her and her ultimatum would already be out of the door and blocked from all access.
I had a female friend whom lived with me for a year, and is a bit mentally ill. We were not sexual, although she did want to be sexual. Now she lives in another state and we communicate daily. I care a lot for her.
Now, my current girlfriend doesn't want me speaking to her at all. Is this right for her to ask of me?
I was on your side until I read the bolded. Dude, you're playing with fire....
I was on your side until I read the bolded. Dude, you're playing with fire....
Yeah ...she used to live with him
she wanted to be sexual
she has mental health issues
she has jealousy issues
she has caused other turbulence in his present relationship.
I don't understand where there is even a question here. He's lucky he still has a gf.
You're letting this girl use you, OP. You can care for her without allowing her to be such a dominant and dominating influence in your life.
I agree that ultimatums are distasteful, but maybe your girlfriend is desperate to do something about a situation that you've allowed to become intrusive.
I would tactfully suggest to the friend that you talk once a week.
What is the nature of her "somewhat" mental illness?
If Your friend wanted things to go sexual and has made it know it's a little different than "just friends" even if you have no intention to do anything with that information yourself
It extremely bad taste and judgment that undermines your current relationship by excusing other people's intentions and motivations and creates a peer group that can only serve to influence you in the wrong direction
It's your call, but don't expect your current girl to stay around long if you choose to keep company with people who wish they could sleep with you.
The mental illness thing sounds like nothing more than a scapegoat to excuse behavior.
Last edited by rego00123; 09-29-2017 at 11:50 PM..
You're letting this girl use you, OP. You can care for her without allowing her to be such a dominant and dominating influence in your life.
I agree that ultimatums are distasteful, but maybe your girlfriend is desperate to do something about a situation that you've allowed to become intrusive.
I would tactfully suggest to the friend that you talk once a week.
What is the nature of her "somewhat" mental illness?
Hes keeping his options open just in case his current relatioship goes south. We guys know how mentally ill women are in bed, LOl
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