Should I date a guy who treats me poorly and doesn't find me attractive? (girl, sex)
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You're right, yes I know he wants me to do extra kinky stuff and treat him like a king. He says he wants a woman who finds him physically attractive, who thinks of him as a prize/trophy, he basically wants to be worshipped, and he can't get that with normal prostitutes.
He can't meet other women because he never leaves his room and dropped out of college so he doesn't do much and can't meet other people.
So...he's too cheap to get a high-priced prostitute who will do all that for him and too lazy to step outside his door?
Sounds like you know the score, but it also sounds like if you want to get paid enough and often enough to make it "worth it" you should just go into porn. I'm sure if you can make all the right noises they'll have no problem degrading you for decent money and as an added bonus you'll get paid regularly for the work you put in.
This "opportunity" comes once in a while within my circles from guys who have a low opinion of others... but have a "need" to fulfill. It almost never works out. The few long term arrangements that do work out are built at the very least a bit of genuine respect...
Even the OP's arrangement is actually worse; there is no real promise for good compensation. So when this all ends, she has nothing to show for it and will be right were she started... scraping by for money with nothing to show for it but a few superficial "experiences", maybe a few extra bucks and hopefully none of that includes abuse.
How didn't it work out? Please go into more detail?
Like I said I don't care about having a long term relationship with this guy. In fact I would reject the ltr offer since I wouldn't want to be with a guy who doesn't find me attractive for the rest of my life. I'm only considering dating him because he's rich and offers me money, and he's easy to talk to. I'm Im also quite lonely myself and would like some sex and companionship. To tell you the truth I'm desperate for both money and "love" as fake as it is.
But you're right about the no real promises part. He could be lying. If it turns out he's stingy and doesn't follow through with his offers, then it would all be for absolutely nothing. I would have to trust that he'll pay up like he said he would, and that's something that isn't guaranteed. I don't know. Maybe I should just keep working at normal jobs and avoid any trouble.
Im also quite lonely myself and would like some sex and companionship.
What makes you think you'll like all the kinky stuff he will have you doing?
Also, if he's such a shut-in what makes you believe he has done or even likes these things?
Sounds more plausible that he's just some dude who sits around and watches too much kinky porn (while fantasizing about doing it), but is worlds away from actually doing it.
What happens when he gets the chance to do one of these kinky things and finds out he's disgusted by the reality of it? Who does he blame? Who does he take it out on?
How didn't it work out? Please go into more detail?
Let me put it this way...
Abuse is abuse...
It takes many forms and compensation doesn't make it any less damaging.
Many of the more naive girls all think the same. Easy money... Until they get into a situation that is difficult to walk away from.
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Like I said I don't care about having a long term relationship with this guy.
I didn't say long term relationship... but long term arrangement. He would be a long time employer. Why would you work for an employer that submits you to such poor treatment and degrades your already low self esteem?
As I said, the only long term arrangements that work are based on at the very least a bit of respect.
What makes you think you'll like all the kinky stuff he will have you doing?
Also, if he's such a shut-in what makes you believe he has done or even likes these things?
And if this is about money, what makes you think that he would show you the money after you've serviced him? It doesn't sound like he's as much of a worldly traveler and gourmand as he claims. He doesn't leave his room. And, it's not his money. Daddums can pull the plug at any times.
Honestly, this sounds like a Dateline episode in the making.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 09-30-2017 at 07:51 AM..
So I've been talking to a guy online who tells me that I'm not objectively attractive, but he's willing to date me because he has low standards and he's lonely. Normally any person with an ounce of self respect would say no, but the thing is, his parents are rich and he's offering me to spoil me if I date him. Now I'm REALLY strapped for cash and could use the extra money. Not only is he offering me money if I meet him, but he promised to take me on expensive vacations, trips, shopping sprees, and rent out luxurious 5 star hotels and restaurants for us. I'm so poor I've never even been to a real restaurant in my life. When he talks to me about the decadent rich people food he eats, I'm confused since I've never even heard about those foods.
He says he doesn't care about looks and cares more about personality and how he's treated. Basically I'll just have to treat him like a king then I'll get rewarded for it, but I'm not sure if it's worth it. I'm not even sure if he can follow through with his promises. Even while talking online he's shown that he has a short fuse and anger issues, so I wouldn't feel exactly physically safe with him either.
But I'm still considering it. I mean I know I'm not attractive. Guys don't approach me and never hit on me. I never get any boyfriend offers from men, especially not rich men who can give me what I desperately need: money. So compounded with my need for money, I'm also deprived of love, attention, and self esteem.
Is there really anything bad about dating a guy you don't like and vice versa for the money? I think about it this way: you get disrespected at a low wage job (think manual labor) by your supervisors, people outside of work treat you worse once they find out you have a crappy job, you lose dignity, AND you have to wake up to an alarm and perform back breaking, grueling work for hours on end. With this rich guy, I can get paid and experience a taste of the rich lifestyle just for cuddling with him and lying on my back. That sounds like a better deal to me, but I don't know. I've never done it before.
Does anyone have any experience with this? Thoughts?
Yes, it is your choice to date whomever and be treated however you choose.
It is also your choice to do this for free or get paid.
It affects no one but you.
How much has he offered to send you so you can go flying into his 'made up rich arms"?
Even bad landlords usually get cash up front for the first months rent and security.
OP, one more thing. If you choose to get paid, get cash in advance.
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