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Guys are either hungry or horny. If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich.
Crap like this is just as sexist as anything you could say about women. Men aren't just dogs solely motivated by food and sex. You do other men a disservice by generalizing like this, even if it's a joke.
I have seen many women feels it difficult to understand their partners and same goes for men as well. But this is specifically about understanding men!
How intelligently a women can understand what men wants and how she become the best lady for her partner so he never look for other women out there!
Serious replies needed!
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You're either a good match, or you're not. You can't make over your personality to please someone else. Men are individuals, so it's about understanding people.
Guys are either hungry or horny. If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich.
I was just about to say keep their bellies full or otherwise satisfied lol
But seriously, it's not about understanding men because all men are different and have different wants/needs (I'm not speaking sexually). Treat someone the way you'd like to be treated.
Supposedly, men are "simple" - they say what they mean with little interpretation needed - which is usually a foreign concept for women who like to look at things from many angles. Maybe the problem is that men don't seem to say much so women are always wondering?
I think the main reason "men don't seem to say much" is that anything they say often gets misinterpreted and used against them on the spot, then remembered and thrown back at them many months later. So, like when dealing with a police officer, the safest thing to do is not to say anything at all.
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Originally Posted by SWFL_Native
Men need the following (generally speaking):
1 - Food
2 - Sleep
3 - Sports
4 - Regular oral sex
5 - Time to be left alone
I'd rank mine more like this. It came to me with age; even 5 years ago, I was nothing like this.
1. Time to be left alone
2. Food
3. Sleep
4. Sports/hobbies
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100. Sex
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I think that there are probably some sound human basics that most people like in a partner, that probably apply. Respect. Honesty. Appreciation.
Beyond those, though... As a conversation starter, I've found the Love Languages concept helpful. If you understand how a person interprets and tends to naturally demonstrate love, you can better understand how to show them love and you can appreciate it when they show it to you.
The last man who told me (in person) how supposedly simple men are, and how supposedly complicated women are, was one of the most complex and emotionally turbulent people I've ever known. We're all only human. I think a case could be made for men preferring to focus on one thing at a time, whether that is a particular train of thought, a pastime, or an emotion...whereas a woman might naturally be a bit more all over the place at any given point in her head. But it would be like one person does a list of things in order, efficiently, the other doing all of them at the same time, possibly less efficiently if you look at the time it takes to do any one of them, but she's doing them all at once. The science I saw recently in one of those TedX videos was that women's brains have more connections between hemispheres, which is why this may happen. Of course that would not imply that women aren't capable of focus, or men aren't capable of mental multitasking...it's just that one might come more easily and naturally than the other.
The theory is interesting at least.
Of course if they were to really prove this, I would be very curious to know then, what about the brains of nonbinary gendered folks? And then which came first, the function of their brain, or the shape of their identity?
Just make your man feel like he's important. That's the key. It helps to stay in shape too if you can, especially initially.
Also, be better than your man. I mean, try to always do the right thing. I like my girl to be a better person than I am.
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Originally Posted by MikefromNY
Guys are either hungry or horny. If you see him without an erection, make him a sandwich.
See, these comments don't help.
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Originally Posted by somebodynew
By intelligently recognizing that individual men know and can say what they want.
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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle
Crap like this is just as sexist as anything you could say about women. Men aren't just dogs solely motivated by food and sex. You do other men a disservice by generalizing like this, even if it's a joke.
Well - online certainly doesn't mean it's the truth - but I've seen many women chastised that they don't take men at face value when they say something and try to make things more complicated - and this is MEN saying this. Obviously not all men are alike...frankly making them more simple or more complex can be equally ineffective.
So, if a particular man isn't introspective and only speaks in simplistic terms about his needs or the relationship then his partner won't get very far looking for nuance that isn't there. Maybe it is more acceptable to just advise looking for parsimony first rather than a complex explanation?
That's not the complexity I'm talking about. Men and women should be taken at face value. I think people who can't be taken at face value are manipulative or game playing, which isn't a good way to go regardless of the sex going there.
Men are socialized to avoid recognizing their own emotions, outside of lust or anger, so they certainly aren't given much guidance regarding emotional stuff in relationships. And there's still very much the idea that we may lose our man card if we show some of the nuance I was referring to. I'm at risk taking this stance, and especially using the word "nuance" as often as I have .
To the OP, one thing I didn't notice when I first read your post was the comment about looking for a way to "keep" a man from straying. Try not to think of it that way. Ask him what he wants. Tell him what you want. If everyone agrees to try to meet each other's needs, you'll be ahead of a lot of couples.
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