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Originally Posted by CBeisbol
An actual discussion doesn't involve asking people to explain something you understand?
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Yeah, but even when people actually EXPLAIN to you in DETAIL when they answer your questions, you STILL come back with "why?". I understand why Foggy has you iggied.
Yeah, but even when people actually EXPLAIN to you in DETAIL when they answer your questions, you STILL come back with "why?". I understand why Foggy has you iggied.
You're delusional
Where did you answer the following questions?
Why do people sometimes just want to part with an ex forever?
Why would you not date a guy who's friends with his exes?
Why wouldn't someone want to be friends with someone want to be friends with an ex who wasn't hurtful towards them?
Being friends with your ex, really only can work out only if BOTH parties no longer have any romantic feelings whatsoever for the other. If one of them still likes the other, wishes to be with the other, still would take back the other, it's not a good idea to be friends with them.
If both people have come to terms with it being over, for good, and are content with that, then go ahead and be friends.
Why do people sometimes just want to part with an ex forever?
Why would you not date a guy who's friends with his exes?
Why wouldn't someone want to be friends with someone want to be friends with an ex who wasn't hurtful towards them?
Sometimes it’s not strictly about you or them.
It’s a consideration to others who you may be (or become) involved with or a consideration towards a situation/circumstance.
How a prior relationship ended may have some barring on if you personally want to keep in contact, but it’s not an ironclad rule that parting on good terms means remaining on good terms moving forward.
Some people seem to think no ill will means the go ahead and in the clear for further contact.
While that may be the case for some, not all circumstances will benifit from this way of approach.
It’s “appropriateness” depends on many factors, not just how well you get along with one another once romance is cut away.
Last edited by rego00123; 10-05-2017 at 11:18 PM..
Let's also not forget, because I'm not sure if it's been said or not.
Sometimes people NEED to move on from an ex, just to get them out of their mind. And if that's the case, trying to be friends with them isn't the best thing for that person. This is not always an indictment on the ex as a person. It doesn't mean they're a terrible person, or a ****ty friend.
It's just what one must do, A LOT of the times in these situations, in order to move on.
I was good friends with an ex for the past seven years! But then suddenly five months ago, it just wasn't working any more - so I stopped talking to him.
I don't know if we'll ever start talking again. We might, but I can't quite picture it.
I was with him as a boyfriend-lover for eight years a long time ago. And then seven years ago, we re-established contact and started being platonic good friends, having lengthy phone calls of 2 hours and 2.5 hours a couple or 3 times per week.
lol Ok, you're one of those types that just likes to be contrary. People are going to do whatever they want to do in their lives. No one has to explain it to you and frankly I don't see why you even care. If you're just going to keep parroting "why" over and over again then there's no point in even trying to reason with you. Good luck with your idiocy. Have a good night!
Nailed it.
It doesn't take the new folks long to figure it out.
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Originally Posted by CBeisbol
Why?
Here's why.
And here's why and why I find people who have this kind of mindset to be people I'm less likely to want to date.
This is just not a sign of a mature relationship or breakup.
It seems like there's a lot of people who are opposed to the concept.
Or they aren't good at expressing themselves.?
What the hell is a mature breakup anyway? I think we dont want to be together, end of sentence. I think it is best to help the process of moving on we conduct our own lives completely independent of each other. I can't move on if you are in my airspace. I need that space to mourn the ending of the relationship and get my together and the mature thing to do is for us to allow that space for each other.
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together and the mature thing to do is for us to allow that space for each other.
