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I'm just curious why so many people liked someone enough to date them, maybe love them, and then decide they want them completely out of their life.
It speaks to me that that person doesn't make good choices in partners.
LOL!!! I was married to a woman for nearly 20 years, then she had an affair with a high school kid for over a year. Does that mean I didn't make a good choice? lol
One I dated stayed "just friends" with ex. Ended up being more than just friends. She just won't let him go.
Tried to stay friends with an ex, and when I didn't text her back after a couple days(I was very busy) she got pissed that I didn't respond so soon. I could tell she still has feelings. So I don't talk to her anymore cause she is hanging on.
Most time in a break-up, someone has unresolved feelings/issues and/or wants to get back together. Simply cause they loved that person and miss that feeling.
Generally, I have no interest in being friends with them. The term friend, could have a very broad meaning.
I wouldn't mind being on friendly terms with my ex from my first serious relationship. We were together for 5 years, and we seemed to be fine when things ended. Early on, we would talk once in a while. We really don't anymore. I feel like she has no interest in speaking to me, which is fine. I'd be interested in talking to her once in a while. As far as hanging out goes, I don't have any interest in that. If I saw her somewhere, I'd stop and talk for a few minutes. We live a thousand miles away, so there's little chance that I'd bump into her.
You're right.
I'm surely not.
So, why waste time bringing that up?
I'm just curious why so many people liked someone enough to date them, maybe love them, and then decide they want them completely out of their life.
It speaks to me that that person doesn't make good choices in partners.
only if they end up hating each other and even then I would not totally agree.
how about giving a new love interest a chance without the ex lingering around? Isn't that a very valid reason?
I would want to be friends with all exes, there was a reason why I fell in love with them and they would still be good friends. However, I want a partner again and therefore I find it totally inapropriate.
how about giving a new love interest a chance without the ex lingering around? Isn't that a very valid reason?
I would want to be friends with all exes, there was a reason why I fell in love with them and they would still be good friends. However, I want a partner again and therefore I find it totally inapropriate.
Like hanging out and seeing each other regularly? Or just keeping in contact and saying hello once in a while by phone or text/talking for a few minutes if you run into each other somewhere?
only if they end up hating each other and even then I would not totally agree.
how about giving a new love interest a chance without the ex lingering around? Isn't that a very valid reason?
I would want to be friends with all exes, there was a reason why I fell in love with them and they would still be good friends. However, I want a partner again and therefore I find it totally inapropriate.
Smart woman that understands the dynamics of relationships
Dating and relationships are so much easier when there isn't ex lovers orbiting around their relatioship.
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What exactly does being friends mean, though?
Like hanging out and seeing each other regularly? Or just keeping in contact and saying hello once in a while by phone or text/talking for a few minutes if you run into each other somewhere?
I gather, that's what most people consider being "still friends" with ex's. Again, IMO, sending a Facebook message to an ex once a year or two isn't being a friend; thats past memories of their relationship reaching out.
When people were married for several years and have children, it is hard not to communicate at all. But if the relationships ended bad, I don't think there is a necessity to keep being friends with ex.
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