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Old 10-08-2017, 02:25 PM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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If my mom knew my SO was cheating I would expect her to tell me. And if I found out she had made a deal with my BF and agreed not to tell, I would be furious!

Time for mom to face the music and come clean. I would invite the 2 of them to dinner and explain you made a mistake and the only way you can correct it is to tell the truth as you know it. I would just present all the facts and tell them what happened. Show them the 'proof' too. You need to confess everything, including the 'deal' with the GF. Then let the chips fall where they may.

By coming clean in front of both of them there will be less confusion and they both heard the same thing at the same time.

 
Old 10-08-2017, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Originally Posted by SOULLESSBEING View Post
I'm not backing anybody
Yes, you are. You're backing the cheating girlfriend and enabling her to cheat more. On your own son!!!!

Bad news does NOT get better over time.

Tell him tonight, or at least before he goes out of town again.
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:03 PM
 
Location: Sacramento , ca
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Not sure why you are 'protecting' this woman...

If I were in your son's shoes, I would be very upset if my mother had this evidence for years, and never made an effort to tell me.
I know but I don't know if I should get involved
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Sacramento , ca
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Thanks everyone but I think I might let this one sort itself out
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:11 PM
 
Location: Sacramento , ca
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[quote=yellowsnow;49760907]If my mom knew my SO was cheating I would expect her to tell me. And if I found out she had made a deal with my BF and agreed not to tell, I would be furious!

Time for mom to face the music and come clean. I would invite the 2 of them to dinner and explain you made a mistake and the only way you can correct it is to tell the truth as you know it. I would just present all the facts and tell them what happened. Show them the 'proof' too. You need to confess everything, including the 'deal' with the GF. Then let the chips fall where they may.

By coming clean in front of both of them there will be less confusion and they both heard the same thing at the same time.
Ok look when I talked to her she says just let her do this in her own time and since she's friends with my daughter since H.S she didn't wanna ruin their friendship. My daughter dosent wanna lose their friendship as she and my son were never close. She's actually my daughters first BFF.
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:13 PM
 
Location: Sacramento , ca
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Set the evidence out where he will find it, there is no way I would sit back and let my son be cheated on by some slutty little beatch
Ok look when I talked to her she says just let her do this in her own time and since she's friends with my daughter since H.S she didn't wanna ruin their friendship. My daughter dosent wanna lose their friendship as she and my son were never close. She's actually my daughters first BFF.
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:17 PM
 
Location: Sacramento , ca
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Ok look when I talked to her she says just let her do this in her own time and since she's friends with my daughter since H.S she didn't wanna ruin their friendship. My daughter dosent wanna lose their friendship as she and my son were never close. She's actually my daughters first BFF.
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:19 PM
 
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I would ask her about it in front of him.

Christ almighty, y'all, for real??? Stay out of it? In these situations, I ask myself, "What would I want them to do for me if the roles were reversed."

If it were me, I sure would hope my mom - or anyone - would say something.
Agree

My Mom told me after the divorce that she had known he was cheating and with whom. She said he had even made a pass at my sister. I was livid at her for letting me go through so much misery when if she had said something I would have checked it out and divorced that guy instead of trying to make it work for so long.
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:29 PM
 
Location: Sacramento , ca
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Agree

My Mom told me after the divorce that she had known he was cheating and with whom. She said he had even made a pass at my sister. I was livid at her for letting me go through so much misery when if she had said something I would have checked it out and divorced that guy instead of trying to make it work for so long.
Why did she hide it from you??
 
Old 10-08-2017, 03:33 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Ok look when I talked to her she says just let her do this in her own time and since she's friends with my daughter since H.S she didn't wanna ruin their friendship. My daughter dosent wanna lose their friendship as she and my son were never close. She's actually my daughters first BFF.
Your "thought process" here is absolutely unbelievable to me.

You obviously favor your daughter over your son, that's for sure.

What, are you one of those moms who wants to be "one of the girls"?? Are you SO self-centered that you don't want to harm your status as "friends" with your daughter and this slag friend of hers that you are going to let your son be mistreated like this? And possibly catch an STD???

This is SO screwed up. You need a wake-up call, lady.
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