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Give me clingy any day, at least they would be showing that they want/need to be with me, most women who call themselves independent tended to treat me like I was just something they penciled in to their "to do" list that has no more value to them than everything else on said list.
Most women seem to confuse the word independent with selfish or uncaring of her SO's feelings.
I would much rather be emotionally needed than merely wanted, want is waaaaaay to subject to change.
...most women who call themselves independent tended to treat me like I was just something they penciled in to their "to do" list that has no more value to them than everything else on said list...Most women seem to confuse the word independent with selfish or uncaring of her SO's feelings.
Yeah - pretty much this.
newsflash - it IS possible to be independent (i.e. have your own life) as well as show your love for someone - the two are not mutually exclusive
Independent and caring.
Clingy people are insecure and dysfunctional. They seek constant reassurance, emotional support, and closeness. They fear becoming abandoned, and constantly scan their relationships for signs of impending rejection by partners, seeing even relatively innocent events as posing an existential threat amid constant worry that their partners will dump them.
Extremely tiring for a partner.
Independent and caring.
Clingy people are insecure and dysfunctional. They seek constant reassurance, emotional support, and closeness. They fear becoming abandoned, and constantly scan their relationships for signs of impending rejection by partners, seeing even relatively innocent events as posing an existential threat amid constant worry that their partners will dump them.
Extremely tiring for a partner.
If you are treating your partner in a way that leaves no doubt then they would not need reassurance, as every thing you do would be assuring them of your feelings towards them. it's small rejections that cause some to fear permanent rejection. if there is nothing they can point to that is a potential issue you have taken that ammo away.
Problem is too many people want to be in a relationship and still behave as if they are single. or treat their SO's as mere options as opposed to priorities.
Why are you asking this question? Are you clingy but thinking you should try to be more independent? Are you independent but thinking you should try to be more clingy?
If you are treating your partner in a way that leaves no doubt then they would not need reassurance, as every thing you do would be assuring them of your feelings towards them. it's small rejections that cause some to fear permanent rejection. if there is nothing they can point to that is a potential issue you have taken that ammo away.
Problem is too many people want to be in a relationship and still behave as if they are single. or treat their SO's as mere options as opposed to priorities.
I want her to be a retired RN, and deduce that by the mere facts that because she met the criteria to be an RN and performed in that role, she would necessarily be independent. No?
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