To the males on CD do you prefer independent or clingy woman ? (wives, married)
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Somewhere in between. Clingy is bad, but someone who is so independent to a point where them being with you adds absolutely no value to their life also sucks
I think most people want someone who falls in the middle of extremes. Rarely is it so black and white.
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This reminds me of that saying, "Anyone who is driving faster than me is a maniac, and anyone who is driving slower than me is an idiot." I suspect that most respondents who have an answer to this question, are projecting, and that's not necessarily a bad thing, it just is. I think that healthy is somewhere in the middle...someone who is capable of standing on their own and doesn't base their entire identity around their relationship to you, yet enjoys your company in ways that don't leave you doubting or questioning that they do. Someone who is with you because they WANT to be, not because they HAVE to be. I don't want to hear anyone say to me ever again, "I can't live without you." Someone who wants a very clingy partner, probably thinks it is perfectly fine and normal in relationships to cling tightly to a partner, themselves. Or expect that partner to help define them and give their life meaning. Someone who wants a completely independent partner is probably very independent, and may also be emotionally unavailable or at least not interested in serious commitments.
The key is in being honest with yourself about who you are and what you need, and being honest with any possible partner and accepting if this isn't something they can do. If a clinger tries to date an indie, they're gonna get hurt. You need to be on at least close to the same page...
So you want a woman that knows where you are every minute of every day? Who must go with you everywhere but work? Not me, I don't want to be suffocated.
So you want a woman that knows where you are every minute of every day? Who must go with you everywhere but work? Not me, I don't want to be suffocated.
Exactly. I know a couple where the wife literally sat on his lap every moment possible. I get the honeymoon stage but jeez, give the guy some room. It was to the point where he couldn't go anywhere without her.
That marriage lasted less than 8 years.
H knows he's got it good. I don't believe in smothering and being clingy/jealous takes up too much energy. I'd rather put that energy to good use.
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