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Basically my girlfriend ended our 10 month long relationship over how fast we should advance our relationship. She wanted to move in and get married sooner than I did. Both of us had previously been married w/ kids and our marriages ended just the year prior. I didn't know she was preparing to end things over this but I guess she was mentally checking out. Once she did I came back to her and tried to work with her on resolving this and coming to a compromise (yes..pretty much chasing).
Over the past month or so after the breakup she kept me on a string, pulling me in like she missed me only to push me away again. At one point I told her I couldn't do this anymore, I didn't appreciate being strung along and that I wouldn't be friends with her either. Shortly after this conversation she came back and told me she wanted to really sit down and discuss things. So we sat down and talked about trying the relationship again, albeit slowly and possibly moving in again the following summer. I thought this was a productive meeting, it was essentially that she needed some time and space but that we would try again.
Several weeks later after giving her some space she called and told me that she didn't want this anymore and told me its best we don't talk anymore. Bottom line is I later found out that while she was telling me she wanted to try again with me that she was actually starting a relationship with someone else and once that took off she cut me loose.
I know technically this is not cheating but it did break my heart. It's been four months later now and I heard her and that boyfriend broke up. My question is if she comes back again would anyone consider taking her back if they were in my position? I do still love her and am on the fence if that situation would come up.
My question is if she comes back again would anyone consider taking her back if they were in my position?
No, I wouldn't, because that person would've killed whatever feelings I had for them by doing this:
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Originally Posted by jm5423
Bottom line is I later found out that while she was telling me she wanted to try again with me that she was actually starting a relationship with someone else and once that took off she cut me loose.
Several weeks later after giving her some space she called and told me that she didn't want this anymore and told me its best we don't talk anymore. Bottom line is I later found out that while she was telling me she wanted to try again with me that she was actually starting a relationship with someone else and once that took off she cut me loose.
I know technically this is not cheating but it did break my heart. It's been four months later now and I heard her and that boyfriend broke up. My question is if she comes back again would anyone consider taking her back if they were in my position? I do still love her and am on the fence if that situation would come up.
Probably not. She sounds pretty flaky. Also, only 10 months into your relationship and less than 2 years removed from a marriage, she freaks out because you're not ready to get married yet? I don't see how I would be ready to get married again if I were in her shoes, let alone freak out because you're not. Just speculating, but it seems as if she either a) has trouble being alone, or b) needs a partner for the financial stability. I don't think you need this drama.
No way. I would block her from contacting you, honestly.
Her back-and-forth behavior sounds to me like she's afraid to let people go who are "good enough" but she's not in love with them to last the long haul.
You'd only be setting yourself up for extended heartache with her. Move on.
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