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I crushed on someone recently who has a long history of doing this. Seemed like a really sweet girl who I thought had potential as someone I can see myself with. It caught me by surprise but eventually, I connected the dots and confirmed with someone who knew her better than I did.
I just don't get the psyche behind it. Why do girls do this?
I crushed on someone recently who has a long history of doing this. Seemed like a really sweet girl who I thought had potential as someone I can see myself with. It caught me by surprise but eventually, I connected the dots and confirmed with someone who knew her better than I did.
I just don't get the psyche behind it. Why do girls do this?
There's so many reasons why this happens. One reason i could see this happening is that so many people have rather unreasonable reactions to rejection and she does not want to risk the (unwarranted) repercussions. I know someone like this, myself. You can even try to convince her that you are more than ok with rejection, but you have to remember, there are so many men who would slit your throat if you say no to them.
In what way did she "lead" you? Was she dishonest, or was it more a case of not specifically stating that she was not interested?
I think the bolded is more of the issue. There are just psychos out there and fly into a rage when rejection comes, but most people are a-ok with it because they can understand that not everyone is going to be a match. It becomes an issue for most guys (I'm not a girl so can't speak to that obviously) when they just aren't told where things stand one way or the other and then things continue with one party knowing where their lines are drawn without cluing in the other party as to "what's up". That is what often leads to lines like being "lead on" or "strung along" or misled or whatever. I'd think for girls it's where calling guys a "player" comes in as well. You ladies can chime in on that, though.
Maybe it was because she gave you a chance despite her reservations until you did something that convinced her to end it with you? That's not leading you on, that's getting to know you. Things don't always work out; in fact, they rarely do. Relationships are hard work and to have a special connection with someone requires a lot of things 'lining up', if you will. Better luck with your next prospect.
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