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THIS! If you want to see the world, and your date, without looking through beer- or wine-colored glasses, don't involve alcohol in the date. Who knows if she'll be that attractive to you, when you're not under the influence to some extent?
^^^^ I agree with you. You got attacked a lot for this post, but just let it go and try to take some of the good advice people gave. It’s simple to be a friend to someone. Just be yourself, have fun, make her laugh, and listen to her. She should do the same in return. After a while, it becomes easy and natural. You won’t feel it a struggle to look for things to talk about or do.
Good luck to you, and I’m glad you were brave enough to post your feelings, and the truth!
You just met her. If I were this woman I would think you are nuts. Especially if you keep talking like this and about having sex. Get a grip. You are old enough to know better.
^^^^ I agree with you. You got attacked a lot for this post, but just let it go and try to take some of the good advice people gave. It’s simple to be a friend to someone. Just be yourself, have fun, make her laugh, and listen to her. She should do the same in return. After a while, it becomes easy and natural. You won’t feel it a struggle to look for things to talk about or do.
Good luck to you, and I’m glad you were brave enough to post your feelings, and the truth!
I just spoke to her and there is a lot more going on than i knew about.
1. when i met her she was at a bar downtown Chicago drinking and she wanted me to join her.
when i joined her she seemed like she wanted true companionship and she was very affectionate with me.
In getting to know her she I found out she has been married twice and her last divorce was ugly she says.
She owns buildings all around the bay area and its stressful and she is not getting any help from her 21 year old boy who just drains her for cash.
She told me she struggles with anxiety and can't handle pressure.
But now when I look at the past weekend she was drinking very heavy and was very touchy with me and wanted to me to sort of be close to her when ever we were together.
So i think what I did was normal for any man who was empathetic and caring.
she is trying to drink her problems away and I offered her advice like meditation, etc.
So i did offer friendship, I just think i was trying to protect her and save her which she is not ready for at this point.
She has stuff going on and I got caught in the line of fire and did what any decent person would do - offer comfort.
As for people on here giving me a hard time. I wanted it and appreciate the hard tough advice.
Nope aint going for it. She found me and she was the one that was touchy feely from the start. Her issue was not sex, it was starting a relationship long distance.
I just spoke to her and there is a lot more going on than i knew about.
1. when i met her she was at a bar downtown Chicago drinking and she wanted me to join her.
when i joined her she seemed like she wanted true companionship and she was very affectionate with me.
In getting to know her she I found out she has been married twice and her last divorce was ugly she says.
She owns buildings all around the bay area and its stressful and she is not getting any help from her 21 year old boy who just drains her for cash.
She told me she struggles with anxiety and can't handle pressure.
But now when I look at the past weekend she was drinking very heavy and was very touchy with me and wanted to me to sort of be close to her when ever we were together.
So i think what I did was normal for any man who was empathetic and caring.
she is trying to drink her problems away and I offered her advice like meditation, etc.
So i did offer friendship, I just think i was trying to protect her and save her which she is not ready for at this point.
She has stuff going on and I got caught in the line of fire and did what any decent person would do - offer comfort.
As for people on here giving me a hard time. I wanted it and appreciate the hard tough advice.
Well then she may have a drinking problem, and furthermore, you have to ask yourself if you want a relationship in which you need to “save” someone.
Well then she may have a drinking problem, and furthermore, you have to ask yourself if you want a relationship in which you need to “save” someone.
She was so sweet and giving...
I could see she was in need and she just wanted a companion for the weekend.
But all those months we were together holding hands, hugging and giving each other affection made me want it to never stop.
But she has anxiety issues and I bet everyday we were together she grew more and more anxious about it.
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