Why do women who 80+% of single men would find attractive go for married ones? (ugly, sexy)
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I was shown a site called "She's a homeWrecker" from a former coworker who saw one of my ex's on it.
I read the post had a good laugh then start reading other posts on the site, even did a search for homewreckers in my area(should not have done that).
It kinda started making me mad, I noticed that the many of these women were at the high end of the attractive scale in fact the vast majority were at least on the high end of the average scale.
Yes there are a few that were not conventionally attractive(if they were the sweet stuff on the side I don't want to even see what the wife looks like), but they were in the minority, but at least with them I can wrap my head around why they would go that route, when you don't get much attention from the opposite sex but crave it, (when someone does give you attention you will jump on it, if they are married or not). I have been tempted myself to say screw it when I get contacted by a married woman on a dating site, but I come to my senses before I hit send, because:
1. I can not bring myself to ruin another mans life, and create another man who feels like me.
2. even if I did get her to leave him I would never trust her and would spend the rest of our time together waiting for the day she betrays me.
It even got me thinking of my experiences on dating sites and app's those times when married women would contact me(I really hate that, but least the majority of women tend to admit that up front), I notice they tend to be more attractive on average than the single women that contact me, but I digress.
Why would women who have their pick of legions of single men why would love to have, them choose someone else's man?
SSS--- aka: The Suzanne Somers Syndrome.
They think their "soulmate" can be found that way, because of hyped up and well publicized "success" stories like Suzanne's and others.
At the end of the day its up the the married man (or woman) to not go along with advances of someone else.
So I don't really care why they do it. Is it crappy? Sure. But if the married person is so easily swayed and eager to cheat, they are crappier.
At the end of the day its up the the married man (or woman) to not go along with advances of someone else.
So I don't really care why they do it. Is it crappy? Sure. But if the married person is so easily swayed and eager to cheat, they are crappier.
But knowing someone is married or in a relationship and still going after them says much about that persons character. and if people one day drew the line at married or involved people then they would have nobody to play with. maybe we should return to the practice of placing a stigma on such people, yes some would still do it but many would thing twice about such actions.
Not all people who cheat are cheaters, sometimes they get caught up in a moment of weakness(not a valid excuse) and some people prey on that weakness so a rough patch that a couple might have overcome is no longer surmountable(eventually all couples will have a rough patch).
But knowing someone is married or in a relationship and still going after them says much about that persons character. and if people one day drew the line at married or involved people then they would have nobody to play with. maybe we should return to the practice of placing a stigma on such people, yes some would still do it but many would thing twice about such actions.
Not all people who cheat are cheaters, sometimes they get caught up in a moment of weakness(not a valid excuse) and some people prey on that weakness so a rough patch that a couple might have overcome is no longer surmountable(eventually all couples will have a rough patch).
I said it was crappy to do, but the other person isn't committed to you like your spouse/SO is. Ultimately the ball is in the committed persons court.
And if we can say not all people who cheat are cheaters, the same rule has to go for the "home wrecker".
I said it was crappy to do, but the other person isn't committed to you like your spouse/SO is. Ultimately the ball is in the committed persons court.
And if we can say not all people who cheat are cheaters, the same rule has to go for the "home wrecker".
The reason the married cheater doesn't always tell the truth about being married is because most single people really do not want to get involved with someone who's married. The random single person did promise to Love, Honor, and Obey someone else's unknown wife or husband, the spouse did.
I said it was crappy to do, but the other person isn't committed to you like your spouse/SO is. Ultimately the ball is in the committed persons court.
And if we can say not all people who cheat are cheaters, the same rule has to go for the "home wrecker".
The law seems to agree with you, at this point 21 states have adultery laws criminally, most are misdemeanors in most of those states with it being a felony in only a few (though in Arizona the law covers the cheater and the one they cheated with).
I remember seeing a few of those cases on court TV(I miss that channel), and even then they would always mention how hard it was to win those cases and how very few actually went through with it because they would have to basically stand up before 9 people and explain how you could not compete with the other man/woman.
And even though the laws were originally written to protect men from having their wives stolen by more well to do men, in the last 60 - 70 years it's usually wives who actually win such cases, A lawyer on one said show said his guess was that it's easier to get 6 out of 9 jurors to sympathize when they see a younger, prettier, thinner "other woman" (yep an attorney who does those types of cases actually said that), and men have a harder time wining such cases against the other man because he has to walk a tightrope between making himself look like a loser but not too much of a loser(which is Ironic because the down trodden average joe who lost his wife to some guy who was well off was who the law was made for in the first place) .
Personally I feel none of that should matter, either a person knowingly had relations with a married person or they did not, but since you have to convince a jury you were wronged and need their sympathy those perceptions matter on such cases.
Just reading your thoughts on how one either "knowingly had sex with a married person or not" gives the impression that the married person is a vulnerable adult who cannot consent to have sex out on their own in the wild. Some predator will come along and violate them.
I didn't run out the door looking for the 'homewrecker' when it happened to me, because he was standing right there. Daddy's home! He's the only one who promised me anything, he's the only one who owed his child anything. It wasn't some stranger's duty to keep their promise to me.
Last edited by RbccL; 11-04-2017 at 08:47 AM..
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The reason the married cheater doesn't always tell the truth about being married is because most single people really do not want to get involved with someone who's married. The random single person did promise to Love, Honor, and Obey someone else's unknown wife or husband, the spouse did.
