Why do women who 80+% of single men would find attractive go for married ones? (younger, kids)
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It almost sounds like you're defending women like this.
Nope. Just explaining some things to the OP. Not all women who have affairs with married guys are interested in wrecking homes. Nor are they always the ones who start anything, contrary to what the OP seems to believe. He has a strong tendency to think in black-and-white, and to buy into stereotypes.
It's a trait that's fairly common throughout the animal world
So, it's not a stretch that humans, being animals, might also share that trait.
Humans have a far greater capacity than animals to learn from experience, and to use their intelligence, though. Most do, once they get through adolescence, give or take a few years.
Humans have a far greater capacity than animals to learn from experience, and to use their intelligence, though. Most do, once they get through adolescence, give or take a few years.
There's evidence that humans do find other humans with a partner, more attractive.
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Abstract Mate-choice copying occurs when animals rely on the mating choices of others to inform their own mating decisions. The proximate mechanisms underlying mate-choice copying remain unknown. To address this question, we tracked the gaze of men and women as they viewed a series of photographs in which a potential mate was pictured beside an opposite-sex partner; the participants then indicated their willingness to engage in a long-term relationship with each potential mate. We found that both men and women expressed more interest in engaging in a relationship with a potential mate if that mate was paired with an attractive partner. Men and women's attention to partners varied with partner attractiveness and this gaze attraction influenced their subsequent mate choices. These results highlight the prevalence of non-independent mate choice in humans and implicate social attention and reward circuitry in these decisions.
And that this is more prevalent in women than in men
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Women Show Stronger Mate-Choice Copying than Men
Both female and male participants showed mate-choice copying. Specifically, the willingness of a participant to engage in a long-term romantic relationship with a mate (our proxy of a mating decision) varied with the attractiveness of the mate's partner. Participants were more willing to engage in a long-term romantic relationship with a mate when the mate was paired with an attractive partner (F2,109 = 85.68, p<0.0001; n = 60 (30 women 30 men); Figure 2). This change in the willingness of participants to engage in a long-term romantic relationship with a mate varied with the initial mate score (F1,6357 = 395.46, p<0.0001) and tended to vary with the sex of the participant (F1,58 = 3.47, p = 0.07).
If you have evidence that this is more prevalent in younger women, which it may be as younger women have less experience to draw on so thus may be more likely to use the wisdom of others, please present it.
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Nope. Just explaining some things to the OP. Not all women who have affairs with married guys are interested in wrecking homes. Nor are they always the ones who start anything, contrary to what the OP seems to believe. He has a strong tendency to think in black-and-white, and to buy into stereotypes.
If you have evidence that this is more prevalent in younger women, which it may be as younger women have less experience to draw on so thus may be more likely to use the wisdom of others, please present it.
Eh, I've been single my whole life, and I don't really buy this.
And in my case, I don't care if a woman has a boyfriend or not. If I'm not attracted to her, nothing will change that, lol.
I don't see any reason to assume this is a conscious decision people are making.
What does your being single your whole life have to do with you ability to accept scientific research?
LOL
What does this have to do with anything?
Because this is a trait particular to women. Men simply don't care if other men like the same woman. It's not bad, it's just human nature. Just like men prefer the looks younger women.
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